From Balancing in the Middle Ground:
[Some families] had stopped doing school, and then stopped making their kids do anything, and now their kids were doing NOTHING.
Aside from the idea of the rich potential of their "nothing," the parents had gone from making their kids do everything, to "making them do nothing." And interestingly, it did make them "do nothing," at first. Or at least the parents couldn't see the new things they were doing.
Rather than moving from one edge of a dichotomy to the other, the goal is to move to a whole new previously unknown middle place.
Holly Dodd, and the false sea onion