| Look for patterns and unique expressions, all around you. There will be packing materials, automobiles, tea mugs, hats and toys to serve as sculpture and utilitarian design, even if you're stuck at home. Look out your window. Look AT your window. |  |
| "Watch and listen to you kids. Let yourself get caught up in what they find wonderful and in the process rediscover wonder itself." |  |
| When unschooling is working really well, learning will be happening, for kids and parents, without effort. |  |
| It's such a big part of our culture to get it done now, fix it all now, make it happen now, do, do, do, do. Sometimes what life really requires is calm and patience. A very valuable thing to learn in life is to how to take care of ourselves and others during times of stress and times that aren't ideal and wonderful. —Jenny Cyphers |  |
 | People DO think of next week. They think of last week. But they're doing their thinking from inside their present selves. Balance depends on the fulcrum. Be solid. Be grounded. Be whole, and be here. |
 | Move from long-term worries to present peace. Leave your kids alone to play, to sleep, to watch videos, to draw, or whatever they want to do. Feed them. Water them. Love them. Wait. |
Unschooling advice—or deschooling oneself—does not change just because the kids get older: *Get closer to your child.*
 | Eliminate those degrees of separation that have started to grow fearful roots in you! When that happens, *you* actually start to *create* that divisiveness and separation in your relationship, by listening to your fear over the needs and interests of your kid. Do not let that monster in! Shine the light on the scary cobwebs and dark stuff. —Tara Joe Farrell |
