My "make the better choice" tool has helped me move from "acceptable" to "better" and then MORE better. 🙂JennyC:
It's nice to catch yourself in the moment and do better. The more you do it, the easier it is to do it.
photo by Sandra Dodd
My "make the better choice" tool has helped me move from "acceptable" to "better" and then MORE better. 🙂JennyC:
It's nice to catch yourself in the moment and do better. The more you do it, the easier it is to do it.
It was hard for me to realize I wasn't being kind or generous to my kids - I think of myself as a pretty kind person, in general, and I was certainly doing things I *thought* were generous... Part of the problem I had was that I wasn't thinking about Ray's interests and desires in the moment, I was thinking about the person he might become. I was being kind and generous to the adult I hoped he would grow into, doing things that were "good for him" so he could become that adult. Setting up life lessons for kids ignores who kids are as people in favor of theoretical adults - which isn't kind to who children are right now.
I asked the same question a few years back. I got an excellent, but unexpected reply. I was told if I thought I wasn't doing enough, then to do more.
I want my kids to feel empowered, so I empower them. I don't want their view of the world to be tainted by "can't", "shouldn't", "wouldn't", and the like. I want their world to be full of "yes I can," I shall find a way to do what I want to do with my parent's blessing and help.
My attitude continues to make the greatest difference to my happiness. Most of my needs are met in joyfully giving and being with my family. Those that are not met that way, are more able to be met when my daughter and husband are already happy and feeling generous. And if I am feeling like I need a break, I can take one in the space of a breath, a memory, a moment, a hug.
Principles of unschooling, once well understood and practiced, can be extended beyond the children. |
See how it's going at your house. Tweak it. Move toward a good relationship, move toward being more present, and then you start to understand. |
As my kids get older...I'm seeing more vividly the results of parenting choices, not just in them, but in their more conventionally parented peers, as well. Generosity begets generosity. —Caren Knox |
When there are options, feeling sleepy and choosing to go to bed can be warm, wonderful feelings. How sweet, to have a clean bed waiting, and to want to get into it. On one small bit of gratitude, one can step up and see another one, and another. |