photo by Ester Siroky
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Showing posts with label wheelbarrow. Show all posts
Monday, March 13, 2023
See the sweetness
photo by Ester Siroky
Something looks like this:
child,
dad,
headgear,
wheelbarrow
Thursday, November 10, 2022
Lovable and respectable
Probably the idea started, in the 1950’s, with Carl Rogers’ phrase "unconditional positive regard."
If you’re a big fan of "unconditional love," consider backing it back to "unconditional positive regard" to help clarify and ground you for the real world.
Unconditional Positive Regard (at wikipedia)
Also, try to respect your male partner if you have one. He’s probably doing some good for you even if it seems like he’s not giving you unconditional love. And the difference between "love" and "respect" is about language anyway. Try to be lovable AND respectable, whether or not you have a partner or an audience, because it makes you a better person. Try to be trustworthy and dependable.
Being a better person will make you a better parent.
“Deserve” is a problem.
photo by Janine Davies
Note to clarify, years later: I think that in a long-established relationship with any other adult, raising children, that love and respect are intertwined. Biochemically, in more youthful people who are "in love," that has a reality beyond and apart from respect. In the context of the topic from which that was taken, it's clearer.
The Wikipedia article has been amended, in the past few years, to credit Stanley Standal with the concept, and the phrase "positive regard" (for therapists).
Something looks like this:
flowers,
wall,
wheelbarrow
Sunday, August 7, 2022
Your happy, whole heart
I wrote:
I can't say. Even if most were, your own kids might not be. Even if most weren't, your own kids might be.
If what you do is better than school, for your kids, keep doing that. If school would be better than what you're doing, for your kids, in their real lives, then do that.
If you're going to unschool, do it wholeheartedly and happily.
photo by Janine Davies
Something looks like this:
flags,
friends,
wheelbarrow
Wednesday, February 9, 2022
With patience and with gratitude
Be as good as you can be as often as you can be.
photo by Cátia Maciel
Friday, October 22, 2021
Deschooling
Sylvia Woodman wrote:
Sandra Dodd, backing her up:
Questions about Deschooling (facebook)
photo by Cátia Maciel
In some ways parents need to be actively demonstrating how much BETTER staying home is to being in school. Make sure you are busy doing fun things. Give her experiences that she could never have if she was in school.
Sylvia's right—DO things. Point out in the midst of a fun activity that it's cool that she doesn't need to... get up early the next day, or wear special clothes/uniform/dress code every day, or...And you, the mom, see other things that are lucky and fortunate about it.
photo by Cátia Maciel
Something looks like this:
child,
playing,
wheelbarrow
Sunday, July 11, 2021
Excitement, peace and humor
. . . .
What if a family wants to step off the path and look around on their own? What if a family wants to take a different path to the future that's quicker, or more dangerous, or more leisurely, or funnier? Will their values then involve excitement or peace or humor?
but it is linked to SandraDodd.com/priorities
photo by Elise Lauterbach
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Something looks like this:
child,
snow,
tool,
wheelbarrow
Tuesday, March 16, 2021
Learning so many things
When unschooling is equated with alternative school, it can blind people to the possibilities of full-on radical unschooling. No matter how extremely great or different a school is from a traditional school, or the default standard, it is still a school. SandraDodd.com/familybonding
photo by Cátia Maciel
Parents who are unschooling as a whole way of life, can discover what no school can find, and the core aspect of it is the family as a base for learning—for learning about family, for learning about relationships, and resources, money, food and sleep, and learning about laughter.
photo by Cátia Maciel
Something looks like this:
playing,
siblings,
wheelbarrow
Thursday, January 21, 2021
Kind, thoughtful and respectful
If we want our children to be kind and thoughtful and treat others with respect we need to model that for them. We can make kids *act* respectful and act kind and act thoughtful but when we stop making them and give them the choice, they're unlikely to want to be kind, thoughtful and respectful of those who don't treat them that way.
—Joyce Fetteroll
photo by Ester Siroky
Saturday, October 6, 2018
Confidence oozes out
Once your own child starts to grow and change, then the confidence isn't external. It's not "I believe this will happen because I've seen it happen elsewhere," it's "I believe it's happening because it's happening. You can't deny that I know my child learned this without school." And so the confidence that those families then have oozes out to other families. And this is an advantage of those many years passing, is there's a lot of experience, a lot of examples, to see.
photo by Janine Davies
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Something looks like this:
friends,
playing,
wheelbarrow
Tuesday, September 4, 2018
Simple advice
"The advice that has helped the most has been the simplest. Be present. Be helpful. Be kind." —Virginia Warren |
photo by Roya Dedeaux
Monday, August 13, 2018
Keep learning
We don't know what our kids are thinking about what they're watching, hearing, tasting, smelling, feeling in their lives. And we don't need to know. It does help for us to keep learning, too, ourselves, so we have more confidence that they're learning.
photo by Janine Davies
Something looks like this:
headgear,
instrument,
playing,
wheelbarrow
Thursday, May 17, 2018
Seasonal doings
photo (a link) by Janine Davies
Thursday, February 8, 2018
Where the magic is
"It's easy to see problems. It's easy to get down and be cranky. Anyone can do that. But to find the laughter, the beauty, the pathway to connection and possibilities—that's where the magic is. It requires you to look at things from different angles."
—Cass Kotrba
photo by Sandra Dodd
Something looks like this:
frame,
gate,
stuff,
wheelbarrow
Friday, November 10, 2017
A wonderful thing
"One of the wonderful things about unschooling is that we come to understand that children are learning all the time. Knowing that, we can make thoughtful choices about how we'd like to influence that learning. We cannot control what is learned, but we can create an environment in which joyful learning can thrive."
photo by Cátia Maciel
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child,
path,
playing,
stonework,
wheelbarrow
Saturday, May 6, 2017
Not everything, but something
"We can't magically afford everything, but very often we can afford something."
SandraDodd.com/unschoolingcost
photo by Janine Davies
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—Pam Sorooshian
photo by Janine Davies
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Something looks like this:
dad,
fence,
ride,
wheelbarrow
Tuesday, May 2, 2017
Own the good stuff
If parents retain ownership of their children's learning,
the children cannot learn on their own.
What I've just said above is / will be / has been misinterpreted to mean the parents should throw up their hands, back off, and not say a word. That's not what I mean at all. Possibly the very same interactions can occur, but the balance of power and responsibility can change by changing the phrasing and definitions.
Own joy management, or trust-earning or something.
SandraDodd.com/parentalauthority
photo by Janine Davies
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the children cannot learn on their own.
What I've just said above is / will be / has been misinterpreted to mean the parents should throw up their hands, back off, and not say a word. That's not what I mean at all. Possibly the very same interactions can occur, but the balance of power and responsibility can change by changing the phrasing and definitions.
Own joy management, or trust-earning or something.
SandraDodd.com/parentalauthority
photo by Janine Davies
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Something looks like this:
family,
fence,
playing,
trees,
wheelbarrow
Sunday, April 16, 2017
Happy surprises
Sunday, February 26, 2017
Lovely things
Ren Allen wrote:
Plato said: "The most effective kind of education is that a child should play amongst lovely things."
While I agree wholeheartedly, I think he should have said "The most effective kind of education is that PEOPLE should play amongst lovely things." Learning is for always. Playing amongst lovely things has the power to heal lives, heal families and liberate people. That's really what unschooling is in a nutshell—playing with lovely things, ideas, people and places. We say "living is learning" but "playing is learning" too.SandraDodd.com/rentalk
photo by Janine
Plato said: "The most effective kind of education is that a child should play amongst lovely things."
While I agree wholeheartedly, I think he should have said "The most effective kind of education is that PEOPLE should play amongst lovely things." Learning is for always. Playing amongst lovely things has the power to heal lives, heal families and liberate people. That's really what unschooling is in a nutshell—playing with lovely things, ideas, people and places. We say "living is learning" but "playing is learning" too.
—Ren Allen
photo by Janine
Tuesday, February 21, 2017
Whole and healthy
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Tuesday, May 17, 2016
Flexible expectations
Some people have snow while others have heat waves. Leaves turn red and gold some places while others have year-round greenery.
Some days are full of learning and laughter and others are quieter.
Expect the world to surprise you. Moments, days and years will have different kinds of weather, activity, and learning. The factors are too many to track, so flexibility and the ability to be easily amused or quickly compassionate will serve you well.
SandraDodd.com/skills
photo by Sandra Dodd
Some days are full of learning and laughter and others are quieter.
Expect the world to surprise you. Moments, days and years will have different kinds of weather, activity, and learning. The factors are too many to track, so flexibility and the ability to be easily amused or quickly compassionate will serve you well.
SandraDodd.com/skills
photo by Sandra Dodd
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