See that as a good thing, as a feature of a rich life. They are not you. Shared experiences are still individually perceived.
(These words aren't there; others are.)
photo by Abby Davis
She's currently refusing to go outside.I responded:
She can't refuse if no one is pressuring or demanding.
Color, texture, scent. Sound. Taste.
Let your days be sensational.
Disposable Checklists for Unschoolers
photo by Janine Davies
The patterns you and your children see are worth exploring and expanding. The connections you make are your model of the moment, and ultimately part of your model of the universe—past, present, future, imagined, revised, spooky and sweet. |
No one can have perfect happiness, but *more* happiness is easy to come by. It doesn't cost any more than less happiness, but it's much healthier and better for the whole family and the neighbors and relatives.
You can't be everything.
Limitations are real, and some limitations are time, patience, focus, knowledge, weather, health...
Knowing you can't be perfect, be better than you would have been if you were not aiming to be a better parent, better partner, and better person.
You can't see everything, but you can slow down and try to see more.
Whether it's warm outside or cold, the sun through the window is the same. Be light. |
Biochemically/emotionally, calmer is healthier. I don't know of any physical condition that is made better by freaking out or crying hard or losing sleep or reciting fears. I know LOTS of things that are made better—entire lives, and lives of grandchildren not yet born—by thoughtful, mindful clarity. |
Some people go to school, have Special Ed for many years, have labels and they still cannot do things they way they are "supposed to." Those will still carry all the harm from feeling less than, and broken. I would not want that for any child. |