Someone said one time that she counts to ten and then she's still mad so what should she do, and a couple of people said "Count slower."
Angrily holding one's breath and counting to ten in a hostile fashion isn't the "count to ten" that's recommended. Breathing to ten is way better.
Breathing can be done in an overt, hostile "I'm breathing so I won't hurt you" passive-aggressive way, too. That cancels it right out.
The quote is from an online chat, but a good link is SandraDodd.com/breathing.
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