Schuyler wrote:
I can almost pinpoint the minute when I turned from feeling a need to have my own needs met in a separate but equal kind of way to seeing how being with Simon and Linnaea was meeting my needs in the most involved and deep way....
For me, it was very clearly incremental, it was a step by step building from small changes to a point where I was in a position to find personal fulfilment in being with my children. It wasn't martyrdom, or it didn't feel as though I'd sacrificed myself for their joy. It did help to get the almost kinetic memory of being kind to them, of meeting them where they were instead of expecting them to meet me where I was.
—Schuyler Waynforth
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Feedback on "Step by Step":
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to thank you for every day's Just Add Light and Stir emails, but especially the "step by step" one I received yesterday. That quote, and also the rest of the Needs page, made something click for me in the last 24 hours. So thank you, as always! 💜