Tuesday, December 18, 2018

When is writing "real"?

Somewhere between writing nothing and being a wealthy professional author, many people write in the middle ground, and others' lives are changed.
Other Voices
The quote is from SandraDodd.com/balance
photo by Sandra Dodd

Sunday, December 16, 2018

"Radical," dude!

""Radical" means from the roots—radiating from the source. The knowledge that learning is natural to humans can radiate forth from that point in every direction."


So the history of "radical unschooling" came from someone saying "Well we're not that radical," and me saying "well I am."
. . .
From the roots to the tips
from the roots of hair to the tips
or the roots of a tree to the end of each leaf
or from the roots of a belief to the end of each action.

photo by Gail Higgins

Saturday, December 15, 2018

Tactful tactics

Tact is not a rule.

Tact is making a strategic, thoughtful decision after considering as many factors as the person has access to. Tactful. Tactics.

Tact is not about rules. Tact is about not burning bridges, not losing friends, not screwing things up. Tact is about being a good member of a social team. Tact is what helps a person maneuver a difficult situation and be praised and thanked later. Tact is what can get someone invited back over again.

Tact is a WONDERFUL thing to have. It is one of the best things anyone could have.

photo by Karen James

Friday, December 14, 2018

What if a parent is afraid?

Part of my response to a request for advice to fearful parents:

Turn away from the school and look directly at your children. Look at them as individuals, rather than as students, or third graders or eight-year-olds. Look at their potential, their interests, their sweetness, and find ways to preserve and nurture those.
. . .
Don't do school. Do life as though school didn't exist. Live to learn; learn to live. If after really trying it as hard and as honestly and fully as you can for an extended period of time you can't get it to work, then you can always go back to a curriculum.

School has already taken twelve or more years of your freedom and individuality. You don't have to let it take your adult life as well. You don't have to let it have your child.

photo by Sandra Dodd

Thursday, December 13, 2018

As well as you can

Unschool as well as you can, and lots of the side questions disappear. But part of unschooling well is keeping a fairly peaceful environment.

Making choices about being more peaceful is like making other choices.

Make the better choice.

photo by Kristy Hinds

Wednesday, December 12, 2018

Like night and day

A rule that noise is okay at a park isn't as good as looking at the principles. Even in a park, time and place can be factors.

We met in a park with other families for years. Morning before lunch. LOTS of noise, sometimes staying longer, eating running, singing, rough-with-sand (if there weren't younger kids or kids who weren't with our group).

Keith and I also took our kids to parks after dark a few times, and swung them on swings to calm them down, and to have some fun in a cooler, quieter place after some big activity or other, or just for the fun of cold slides instead of the hot slides Albuquerque kids are used to. But we were helping them be quiet, snd screaming wouldn't have been good, in a residential neighborhood after dark. Yes, legally the park is open until 10:00 p.m. but "legal" isn't the only consideration.

Text (rearranged a bit) from SandraDodd.com/principles
photo by Kirby Dodd

Tuesday, December 11, 2018

Courtesy and common sense

Don't bring your hot dog to the vegan friend's house. Don't bring stinky food to places where others can't get away. Don't bring great-smelling food to a hospital room where someone is on a restricted diet, or on an IV with no food allowed.
. . . .

"It depends" is a good first answer when someone asks whether something is or is not okay. There is no "rule" that says unschoolers can eat anything they want any time. But there should not be arbitrary restrictions, just really logical, sensible ones involving courtesy and common sense.

photo by Sandra Dodd

Monday, December 10, 2018

Fun, intriguing, challenging

"Stop thinking in terms of the skills they need. Start thinking in terms of fun, intriguing, challenging things they might like to do that just happen to use those skills. The skills are *tools*. They aren't the end product themselves. Unfortunately that's the way schools teach so it's hard to break out of that way of thinking. Math is useless unless you want the answer it can get for you. Writing is useless unless you have something to say and a need to do it through writing."
—Joyce Fetteroll
photo by Karen James

Sunday, December 9, 2018

Welcome connections

Once you start looking for connections and welcoming them, it creates a kind of flow that builds and grows.
photo by Jo Isaac

Saturday, December 8, 2018

Living proof

"We don't have to be tested to find out what we've learned. The learning will be demonstrated as we use new skills and talk knowledgeably about a topic."
—Pam Sorooshian
photo by Sandra Dodd

Friday, December 7, 2018

Have your cake and clean up too

"Is the goal to have a clean kitchen or the experience of making a cake? If the goal is a clean kitchen, then it's better not to have children! ☺

"Ah, but why can't the goal be both a clean kitchen and a cake?"

—Joyce Fetteroll

photo (a link) by Jen Lynch

Thursday, December 6, 2018

Abundant peace

"Fill your house with peace, toys, interesting things, good food, and love. Create abundance, not scarcity, even if you have very little in terms of monetary resources. Love and peace and happiness don’t cost a thing."
—Colleen Prieto
from Colleen's list at the bottom of "Doing Unschooling Right"
photo by Roya Dedeaux

Wednesday, December 5, 2018

Surprisingly bigger

You might think you know what water is going to do,
           but it can surprise you.

We can picture how our unschooling will go,
           but it will probably be bigger and better.

photo by Marta Venturini Machado

Tuesday, December 4, 2018

Choose the good things

No parent has to do anything. They choose to do things.
. . . .
Through all the innumerable factors, how DO people decide?

By deciding what principles they are following. Each principle one clings to eliminates about half the choices in the world easily, and in a good way. Each additional principle eliminates some more options, until the world becomes manageable.

One of my guiding principles is that I want my children's worlds to be sparkly.

There goes the dull and the darkness. Easily not chosen, not an option.

SandraDodd.com/unschool/sparkly, 2004
photo by Irene Adams

Monday, December 3, 2018

Practice acceptance

Practice being accepting of whatever cool things come along, and providing more opportunities for coolness to unfold.
Two things, two words
photo by Jo Isaac

Sunday, December 2, 2018

Savor the present

Taste your food, or holiday sweets, and feel the familiarity that you might miss someday.
clickable photo by Sandra Dodd
(well all photos are clickable, but this one leads somewhere)

Saturday, December 1, 2018

Framing the sun

No one else sees the world just as you do.

photo by Olivia Turner


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