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Friday, August 22, 2014
Polite and confident
"Lead by example. Be polite and confident, show trust and respect to those who deserve it and your kids will do the same."
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photo by Sandra Dodd
—Lyle Perry
photo by Sandra Dodd
Thursday, August 21, 2014
Bigger, wiser, more whole
Pulling them out or pushing them into things keeps them smaller and more powerless.
photo by Sandra Dodd
Monday, July 28, 2014
The family as a base
Parents unschooling as a way of life can discover learning that no school can find—but the core aspect is the family as a base for learning about family, relationships, resources/money, food, about sleep and laughter.
This was from notes I wrote for an interview.
I didn't use them, so they're here now.
SandraDodd.com/respect might charm and soothe.
photo by Sandra Dodd
I didn't use them, so they're here now.
SandraDodd.com/respect might charm and soothe.
photo by Sandra Dodd
Sunday, March 23, 2014
Respect and acceptance
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Monday, December 2, 2013
A respected child
I really believe unschooling works best when parents trust a child's personhood, his intelligence, his instincts, his potential to be mature and calm. Take any of that away, and the child becomes smaller and powerless to some degree.
Give them power and respect, and they become respected and powerful.
photo by Sandra Dodd
Monday, August 5, 2013
A bigger payoff
Pam Sorooshian wrote:
Focus more on your own behavior than on theirs. It'll pay off bigger.
SandraDodd.com/pam/howto
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Think about what is REALLY important and keep that always in the forefront of your interactions with your children. What values do you hope to pass on to them? You can't "pass on" something you don't exemplify yourself. Treat them the way you want them to treat others. Do you want respect? Be respectful. |
—Pam Sorooshian
SandraDodd.com/pam/howto
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Tuesday, May 21, 2013
True freedom and snake oil
So if someone is selling you "True Freedom" (or snake oil, or the elixir of the fountain of life), have respect for yourself and your family and take a pass on it.
photo by Sandra Dodd (click to enlarge)
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"Snake oil" might not be an internationally-known term, so here's this: Snake oil
Monday, May 20, 2013
Understanding is more important.
Respect and acceptance are more important than test scores and "performance." Understanding is more important than recitation.
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Thursday, April 25, 2013
Plain and good
Plain milk tastes WAY better if it's your choice than it does when it's plain because someone else wouldn't let you put chocolate in it. Without free choice, how can a person choose what is plain and good? |
photo by Sandra Dodd
(I painted the stripey glaze;
Holly did the spots in the same colors,
when she was four or five.)
Sunday, March 17, 2013
Credit
Every little thing a parent does goes into the plus column or the minus column. Each parent is gaining credit or losing credit. Everything counts—words, tone, patience, generosity, interest, kindnesses and thoughts. It takes more to build your credit back up than it does to waste it, so be careful.
though the quote was from a facebook discussion in 2013
photo by Sandra Dodd, of a kinetic sculpture a person can affect,
at ¡Explora! ("Ballnasium," by George Rhoads)
Sunday, February 3, 2013
Breathe. Smile.
If you're just starting to homeschool I have a few words of advice: Breathe. Smile. Your kids will be sharing your stress and fear, so move quickly to get over them. Meet experienced homeschoolers and model your practice on families you like and respect. Deschool yourselves, and the kids will follow easily.
photo by Sandra Dodd
Thursday, December 27, 2012
Whole people, now
photo by Sandra Dodd, of Adam Daniel picking out a souvenir shirt
at the Rattlesnake Museum in Albuquerque
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Sunday, December 9, 2012
Finding abundance
Neediness expresses itself differently with different kids. Abundance expresses itself similarly in all.
A family can learn to find abundance rather than lack, even if they're not wealthy.
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Thursday, October 25, 2012
See your child
See all that is good about your child. |
Holly Dodd, self portrait in a gas cap
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Sunday, July 29, 2012
Respected and loved
When pretend violence exists without the other issues (parenting, school, neglect) it just doesn't have the effect that people fear it will.
For kids who are respected and loved, all sorts of aspects of life that they wouldn't want in their lives can be interesting to visit through fantasy. When you know you'd have to give up the things you value in life to have the "fun" of a violent life as well as the real life consequences, why would anyone choose it? It's only the kids who are growing up severely lacking in love, understanding, support, respect that see violence as a means to something better.
—Joyce Fetteroll
photo by Sandra Dodd, of an interesting window in a thick wall at Fort l'Écluse
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Something looks like this:
architecture,
wall,
window
Thursday, June 21, 2012
Contagious good parenting
Being a good parent makes a person more attractive to the other parent, and makes the other parent grateful and respectful. Gratitude and respect make it easier to have compassion and patience.
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Friday, April 20, 2012
Principles instead of rules
I was determined to figure out how to explain it, but it's still not simple to describe or to accept, and I think it's because our culture is filled with rules, and has little respect for the idea of "principles." It seems moralistic or spiritual to talk about a person's principles, or sometimes people who don't see it that way will still fear it's about to get philosophical and beyond their interest or ability.
Rules are things like "Never hit the dog," and "Don't talk to strangers."
Principles are more like "Being gentle to the dog is good for the dog and good for you too," or "People you don't know could be dangerous." They are not "what to do." They are "how do you decide?" and "why?" in the realm of thought and decision making.
The answer to most questions is "it depends."
What it depends on often has to do with principles.
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Friday, April 13, 2012
John Holt
John Holt's writing is different, and inspiring. He involved himself in schools and saw problems and successes from a different perspective than anyone else I've ever read.
John Holt had no children so he himself wasn't an unschooler, but he inspired others to do things differently from school, to avoid testing and rote learning. He encouraged people to respect children and to give them a great range of experiences and opportunities.
John Holt wrote about learning outside of schools, for about ten years. Since then, many families have raised children to adulthood without any school or schooling at all. I wish he could know Roya, Roxana and Rosie Sorooshian. I wish he could spend some time with Kathryn Fetteroll. How cool would it be if he could pop in for the day at a big unschooling conference in San Diego and meet a couple of hundred twenty-first-century unschooled kids all in the same place?
SandraDodd.com/johnholt
photo by Holly Dodd, of herself, taken with a camera that was new
when John Holt was teaching school.
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John Holt had no children so he himself wasn't an unschooler, but he inspired others to do things differently from school, to avoid testing and rote learning. He encouraged people to respect children and to give them a great range of experiences and opportunities.
John Holt wrote about learning outside of schools, for about ten years. Since then, many families have raised children to adulthood without any school or schooling at all. I wish he could know Roya, Roxana and Rosie Sorooshian. I wish he could spend some time with Kathryn Fetteroll. How cool would it be if he could pop in for the day at a big unschooling conference in San Diego and meet a couple of hundred twenty-first-century unschooled kids all in the same place?
photo by Holly Dodd, of herself, taken with a camera that was new
when John Holt was teaching school.
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Monday, February 27, 2012
Not so many rules
"Rules within the home tend to be entirely for the children to 'follow,' whereas Principles apply to everyone in the family, and to other people with whom we all interact. Principles are ideas like Kindness, Safety, Respect, Honesty."
—Robyn Coburn
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Sunday, February 26, 2012
Ideaflow
I was studying education in the early 1970’s, having wanted to be a teacher since first grade. The university was a hotbed of radical new thought about learning, spirituality, the value and valuing of the human life and spirit. I was in my late teens, and eager to take my turn at trying to change the world. We read all the then-current discussions of classroom failure—James Herndon, A.S.Neill, Jonathan Kozol and John Holt—and I lived and breathed in their hopeful vision of the future of free schools and open classrooms. I taught hard, and after six years I quit. I never did quit learning, though.
Newer John Holt books were waiting for me fifteen years later, when my firstborn son was expressing his distaste for organized activities and formal learning.
While I was making him little medieval costumes and taking him to feasts and tournaments where I set him down to play with his collection of could-have-been-medieval wooden and clay and metal toys, he being part and parcel of that ongoing work of performance art which is the Society for Creative Anachronism, I started to think that maybe school wasn’t going to benefit a child who was resistant to group control and already surrounded by learning opportunities which my distant impersonal gurus of education would have approved. Homeschooling seemed part and parcel of the respect for individuals and the attachment parenting which had flowed so freely from my previous experiences.
photo by Sandra Dodd
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