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I responded:
If you use phrases like "to be waited on hand and foot," you're quoting other people. That usually means the other person's voice is in your head, shaming you. Or it means you've adopted some anti-kid attitudes without really examining them. If you're having a feeling, translate it into your own words. It's a little freaky how people can channel their parents and grandparents by going on automatic and letting those archaic phrases flow through us. Anything you haven't personally examined in the light of your current beliefs shouldn't be uttered, in my opinion. Anything I can't say in my own words hasn't really been internalized by me. As long as I'm simply quoting others, I can bypass conscious, careful thought.
Every ghost town used to be alive. Every "haunted house" was once new. An abandoned car started with good tires, a running engine, and a happy owner. Each adult was a child. |
If you can think of what might mar a day like that, picture it as something to avoid. People can't be happy all the time every day, but the more you can allow happiness to flow, the more happiness you will see, and the more happy memories your children can have.
Avoiding regret, contributing joy...
time will flow as it will,
but we can move closer to peace.
What is new now might be an antique before your children are grown. Try to ride the gentle flow of time and progress. |