photo by Jo Isaac
Wednesday, April 10, 2024
The smallest things
photo by Jo Isaac
Sunday, March 31, 2024
Attention as an investment
It might not seem like it now, but those early years pass fast. I love all the happy memories I've made with Ethan these past 13 years. As he's growing more and more into his own interests, I can see the little boy he once was twirling on a trampoline for the twentieth or more time saying "Watch me now!" landing with pride every time. I can hear the breathless laughs of a child who rooted for the hundredth time for Tom the cat to catch that too-clever mouse Jerry. I know the brave spirit of that little person exploring the dark night and caves of Minecraft. I was there for all of it and more. Thousands of hours of dedicated focus. I don't regret a single moment. If anything, I wish I'd given more. I still have time, thankfully.
It did take a lot of my time, attention and energy, and there were times when I was really, really tired at the end of the day, and mornings when I was slow to want to embrace the day. But I see all that time and energy and attention as an investment—in my son, and in my own future. If I get to grow old, I hope these are some of the moments that bring colour to my winters.
photo by Denaire Nixon
Friday, March 29, 2024
Smiling, kindness and peace
If someone is kind, it makes him a kinder person immediately, right then. No one has to endorse or approve it. It's done; it's already happened.
Every bit of peace one adds to a situation adds peace to the world, that moment and forever.
(I'm not promoting that "law.")
photo by Gail Higgins,
of Broc, his smile, and his shadow
Wednesday, March 27, 2024
Access to tools
Cultivating an attitude of gratitude for the many gifts in my life has taken me from a place of hopelessness in my mind, to one of abundant possibilities. Because my life *looks* more abundant to me, every moment holds more potential. That doesn't mean my life is all wonderful and easy. It does mean that I have access to more emotional, creative, and intellectual tools to help me move toward the kind of life I want for myself and my family.
photo by Amy Milstein
Tuesday, March 12, 2024
The more the easier
My "make the better choice" tool has helped me move from "acceptable" to "better" and then MORE better. 🙂JennyC:
It's nice to catch yourself in the moment and do better. The more you do it, the easier it is to do it.
photo by Sandra Dodd
Monday, March 4, 2024
Helping them share
The problem I see with measured turns is that the quality of game play is compromised. If someone sees the clock and that's when they have to stop, they won't play as thoughtfully. They're less likely to look around at the art or appreciate the music. If they're starting to read, they're less likely to take a moment to look at the text and see if they can tell what it says.
The benefits of game play will not come to full fruition if kids' time is measured that way, and they're not learning to share.
If they only have an hour, they will take ALL of that hour, just as kids whose TV time is limited will.
It they can play as long as they want to, they might play for five or ten minutes and be done.
photo by Sarah S.
Wednesday, February 28, 2024
Moments pass
photo by Karen James
Monday, January 29, 2024
Fun, connection, learning
In response to a question from a mother of four-year-old girls:
"What does unschooling look like at this age?"
Clare Kirkpatrick wrote:
It looks like it does at any age: fun and connection. Do what is fun for them. If you're also working on better connection with them, a closer relationship with them, you'll also start to learn what they may find fun that they don't yet know about. Also do what is fun for you. Learning to help yourself to do fun things will help you realise that your children's learning and richness of life will come from helping them to do things they find fun.At the moment in my house, I am having fun thinking hard about unschooling. My husband and my 12 year old are having fun and connecting with each other by playing Call of Duty together. I have helped my 6 and 8 year olds by making some space for them to build a little home for their polly pocket dolls out of wooden blocks and they are now having fun working on that and playing together. My 10 year old is having fun watching Mako Mermaids on Netflix and occasionally turning round to watch her sister and dad playing and ask questions about the game. Actually, while I've been writing that, the six year old has now snuggled next to my 12 year old to join in the chat about the game. Connection and fun. And, therefore, learning.
—Clare Kirkpatrick
https://sandradodd.com/clare.html#fun
photo: selfie by Sven, the dad
Thursday, January 25, 2024
Relax inside yourself
"I really have to be vigilant on myself and try not to control."
I was amused, but responded, in part:
Being "vigilant" sounds like absolutely exhausting effort. Relax. You do not "have to be vigilant." Especially not on yourself. That's you watching yourself. Way too much work. Let go of one of those selves. Relax inside the other one. Have a snooze. Don't be vigilant.
When you wake up, think. Am I glad to be here? Is this a good moment? If so, breathe and smile and touch your child gently. Be soft. Be grateful. Find abundance. Gently.
photo by Denaire Nixon
Tuesday, January 2, 2024
Sunrise
photo by Monica Molinar
Tuesday, December 19, 2023
Abundance abounds!
I thought of you today while observing my three youngest children having fun together and bonding while playing with the iPad. 🙂 Had I not opened our lives to the principles of Radical Unschooling, there is a high probability that this moment would never have happened. I remain grateful everyday for the wisdom I have acquired through you, your participants, and the daily practice of unschooling principles. Thank you. Abundance abounds!
(e-mail, December 2023)
photo by Megan Valnes
Monday, November 27, 2023
The morning sky
photo by Cathy Koetsier
Thursday, November 9, 2023
Progress
It's not about "success," it's about progress, and living in the moment as well as possible.
photo by Sabine Mellinger
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Saturday, October 7, 2023
Simply good
Think creatively. Think joyfully. Cultivate an attitude of enthusiasm and awe at as many things you can find in a day, especially the ordinary things or those things you've looked upon with skepticism and fear.
Be thankful. Notice little things throughout the day that are simply good. The health of your children. The pattern on the soap bubbles in your kitchen sink. How perfect a favourite mug feels in your hand or looks on a shelf. A laugh. An easy moment. The breeze. The sunshine. A connection with a loved one. A touch in passing. A deep breath. A full moon. A cat purr. A hole-free sock. 😉
photo by Ester Siroky
Tuesday, September 26, 2023
Unscheduled togetherness
This is my 15 year old son with his dog.
I was looking at this picture and thinking about how one of the most beautiful parts (and unexpected effects) of unschooling is the time it allows to live life. You can’t schedule moments like these. This is true for questions asked, discussions had, problems solved together, laughing together and being sad together. Life happens and to be able to enjoy it in the moment is magical.
photo by Sabine Mellinger
Friday, September 22, 2023
Thinking more clearly
'How do "we"' is a problem. The person is asking (I think) whether WE will support HER limiting her child. Each of us acts after consideration of what we know and believe, what our priorities are, what other factors (partners, grandparents, home-owner/landlord, religion, local laws)... But I acted with and toward my children as a partner in the way, in each moment, that seemed sensible and helpful to me, as much as was in my power in that moment. If I didn't do great, I would plan to do better in future moments. If I was happy with my actions, I'd try to remember what I was thinking so I could do that again in the future. But there wasn't a "we" except me and the child I was dealing with.
photo by Colleen Prieto
Monday, September 18, 2023
Embracing what is
I am finding that it is when I can most fully let go of what 'should be' and most fully embrace 'what is' that I glimpse the joy and connection which is the heart of unschooling. It isn't easy, I don't always manage it and it is taking lots of practice, but I think I'm slowly getting there.
I guess it is the heart of why unschooling seems to me like a spiritual practice—the same one to be found in all the mystical traditions of the world, that of being in the moment, embracing what is and experiencing the fullness of that.
photo by Cátia Maciel
Monday, August 28, 2023
Choosing joy
I saw choosing joy was SO much better....really...unschooling and life just flowed....the relationships piece of an unschooling lifestyle was so much more full and sweet. My mind was calmer. It helped me deal better with those niggling fears that popped up about unschooling when I chose to be in THIS MOMENT....seeing the joy and the fun of the moment settled me instead of me stewing for days about if my kids were learning or what about this, or that.
photo by Sarah S.
Sunday, August 20, 2023
Better than worrying...
Worrying feels like *doing something*, maybe because it is so time-consuming and exhausting.
Every moment we spend worrying about if we're doing "enough" is a moment in which we could be doing something to improve our relationships, even if it's nothing more than lifting our own mood.
photo by Chris Cabatic
Thursday, August 17, 2023
Think deeply; respond kindly
SandraDodd.com/seeing
photo by Cátia Maciel