I had brought a ten-dollar bill (no wallet) I told her we'd have about six dollars left and she could get whatever she wanted with it—she wanted a pomegranate or three artichokes (neither of which we had enough money left for) I told her we could come back later with my wallet and get them or get them now skip the milk and come back later for the milk to finish our cake. She said come back later for the artichokes. When we were at the checkout I said why don't you just get a candy bar or something for the walk home she said no thanks. A mom behind me in line was shocked at the idea of a kid not wanting candy if offered said she never heard of such a thing.—Christine Macdonald
SandraDodd.com/eating/sweets
photo by Jihong Tang
Friday, January 23, 2026
Never heard of such a thing
Thursday, January 22, 2026
Friendly, calm and welcoming
Won't they end up lazy?
Do they expect other people to make their life good?
We visited our oldest son, Kirby, last weekend. We met nine of his regular guys. His friends and co-workers and his roommate really, really like him. Today I helped him format a resume, to get it all on one page. Twenty-one and his resume was two pages. Here's something he wrote:
Active Imagination, Albuquerque, New Mexico
Retail floor operator, Summer 2000 — 04/11/05
Constantly advanced the sales quota while upholding a friendly, calm and welcoming atmosphere in the store.
He did! He's good at creating and maintaining a friendly, calm and welcoming atmosphere. No one who knew him when he was five or younger would ever have predicted that.
photo by Holly Dodd
Wednesday, January 21, 2026
Harmoniously better
And harmony expresses the same idea that balance does in these social instances. How you live in the moment affects how you live in the hour, and the day, and the lifetime.
Some have written that unschooling made their family life better. In every case I've seen, making a family's life better is exactly what makes unschooling work well. So which comes first? Neither grew wholly in the absence of the other.
photo by Theresa Larson
Tuesday, January 20, 2026
Clearer and easier
photo by Roya Dedeaux
Monday, January 19, 2026
Real, present, thinking children
How parents can ignore their own real, present, thinking children in favor of vague negativity and scare stories is a mystery.
Unschooling is not synonymous with anything. There are people who "unschool" except for…", and who "unschool mostly," but if their priorities are learning and peace, then arbitrary rules and decisions made on fear are less likely to seem like good ideas.
If an 11 year old is bummed, it might be worth really looking at his side of things. Being a child's partner in exploring the world is valuable in more ways than people can imagine, if they haven't done it. If the parent sees the child as an adversary who should be limited and made to wait until he's grown even to spend his own money, there will be more problems than they can imagine.
SandraDodd.com/partners/child
The full text with background and discussion is here on Always Learning.
photo by Lydia Koltai
Sunday, January 18, 2026
In fun ways for real reasons
My children learned to read without phonics lessons, without programmed readers, and without pressure. Kirby had two and a half lessons, and that cured me of doubt. I had taught reading, years before, and laying those two experiences side by side made me aware of the damage that whole mindset does. So I read to him, played word games with him, sang with him, watched movies with him, bought him video games and magazines to go with them, and from Nintendo gaming guides and magazines, he learned to read fluently when he was nine.
My other two read at ten and eleven. I was more relaxed, and though I was surprised that Holly read "late" (for a girl, I thought, unfairly), a year ago she wasn't reading and now she reads very well. It comes almost suddenly, once they "get it," and I'm convinced that it comes suddenly at school too, but teachers who want job security and paychecks disguise the process with years of exercises and read-alouds and worksheets until those loom large and the child is lost within. At some point a child either reads fluently or has given up trying.
Because my children learned to read without having been taught, they have no doubt whatsoever that they could learn anything else. Few things are as important or as complex as reading, yet they figured it out and enjoyed doing it. If I thought I had taught them, they too would think I taught them, and they would be waiting for me to teach them something else.
They have never been criticized for "not showing their work" when they do calculations in their heads. Mathematics, too, they have learned in fun ways for real reasons.
—Sandra Dodd, 2003
(Holly has read well for over 20 years)
(Holly has read well for over 20 years)
photo by Denaire Nixon
Saturday, January 17, 2026
Enrichment, love and happiness
Doing things with my children that enrich their lives and make them feel loved is my true happiness.—jbantau
photo by Sandra Dodd
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