Unschooling should be about peaceful, supportive relationships, about modelling consideration and thoughtful choicemaking, and about learning.
Being loud and wild and "breaking the rules" seems to be a celebratory stage for some people who are new to unschooling, but it shouldn't be the goal or destination. It's not good for that family, really. It's not good for those who wonder what unschooling is about.
Think of some specific things that changed in you, about you, when you were deschooling. Think of a time when you hit a snag, a lump, an un-deschooled part of you. What happened? What did you do?
Deschooling is a process that can't be sped up, I think. I could be wrong.