Wednesday, March 23, 2011

How important is your child?

If your child is more important than your vision of your child, life becomes easier.
photo by Sandra Dodd of Marty (in front) and Kirby (in red)

2019 Update:
A second edition of The Big Book of Unschooling is available.
A wedge of the photo above appeared on the cover of the first edition.


  1. I think this post is so profound. To me, it encapsulates all of unschooling in one beautiful sentence. Thank you Sandra!

  2. This was quoted in "Unschool Quote-arama" on facebook on March 4, 2012, and it seemed similar enough to the quote above that I thought they should be in the same place. It's by Meredith Novak.

    "It was hard for me to realize I wasn't being kind or generous to my kids - I think of myself as a pretty kind person, in general, and I was certainly doing things I *thought* were generous... Part of the problem I had was that I wasn't thinking about Ray's interests and desires in the moment, I was thinking about the person he might become. I was being kind and generous to the adult I hoped he would grow into, doing things that were "good for him" so he could become that adult. Setting up life lessons for kids ignores who kids are as people in favor of theoretical adults - which isn't kind to who children are right now." ~ Meredith Novak


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