My response (saved by Schuyler Waynforth; thankz!):
You are inviting powerlessness into your life and keeping it there by using that phrase.
You wrote -=-how freeing it was to realize we didn't have to KEEP UP-=-
How much more freeing to think "we can choose not to keep up."
It might seem to you the same thing, or the other side of the same coin. But coins' sides are NOT the same.
Choice is not the other side of a "have to" coin. It is the antidote to a have-to poison. Choice dissolves the roof and ceiling of a have-to cell.
photo by Sandra Dodd