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Thursday, June 23, 2022
Freedom and approval
photo by Cátia Maciel
Sunday, February 26, 2017
Lovely things
Ren Allen wrote:
Plato said: "The most effective kind of education is that a child should play amongst lovely things."
While I agree wholeheartedly, I think he should have said "The most effective kind of education is that PEOPLE should play amongst lovely things." Learning is for always. Playing amongst lovely things has the power to heal lives, heal families and liberate people. That's really what unschooling is in a nutshell—playing with lovely things, ideas, people and places. We say "living is learning" but "playing is learning" too.SandraDodd.com/rentalk
photo by Janine
Plato said: "The most effective kind of education is that a child should play amongst lovely things."
While I agree wholeheartedly, I think he should have said "The most effective kind of education is that PEOPLE should play amongst lovely things." Learning is for always. Playing amongst lovely things has the power to heal lives, heal families and liberate people. That's really what unschooling is in a nutshell—playing with lovely things, ideas, people and places. We say "living is learning" but "playing is learning" too.
—Ren Allen
photo by Janine
Monday, January 23, 2017
Trusting
John Holt said: "To trust children, we must first trust ourselves...most of us were taught as children that we can not be trusted."
They go hand in hand for many of us. Taking that leap into trusting them was the act that lead to trusting myself.
—Ren Allen
photo by Jaimi Meyer
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Tuesday, December 9, 2014
Sparklers at midnight
When my children ask me to light sparklers up at midnight, my auto-pilot mode says "That's not something we do this late at night!" but that lovely little "why not" goes gently swirling through my mind, growing louder as I pause. Why not indeed?
—Ren Allen
photo by Andrea Quenneville
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Wednesday, November 5, 2014
Why not?
—Ren Allen
photo by Sandra Dodd, of a race with a human finish-line
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Sunday, October 5, 2014
Like a dam bursting open
Once I started questioning those "have-to's", "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts" it was like a dam bursting open.
—Ren Allen
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Thursday, December 12, 2013
More freedom, more approval
When we're tempted to say "no," and we have that little internal conversation about "Why not?" that can be healing. When I'm there, I think of my mom saying no, and then I picture her having been open enough to say yes more, and I picture my childhood self having a thrill of freedom and approval. There was some freedom, and some approval, but I can imagine up a lot more of it, and shower it on my children.
photo by Julie D
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Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Changing the present, healing the past, hope for the future
Often people have been resistant about the idea that unschooling involves anything more than just letting their kids play. They don't like to think it involves changing themselves.
Gradually, freedom for the children creates a new looseness in the parents, though. And as one increases, the other does too. When a parent hits a hard spot, where they feel jealousy and resentment, it's often a sign that there's a painful childhood memory that hasn't been laid out to dry yet.
When we're tempted to say "no," and we have that little internal conversation about "Why not?" that can be healing. When I'm there, I think of my mom saying no, and then I picture her having been open enough to say yes more, and I picture my childhood self having a thrill of freedom and approval. There was some freedom, and some approval, but I can imagine up a lot more of it, and shower it on my children.
Sometimes I picture my granny telling my imagined young-girl mom "Yes" a lot too, and I think maybe if my mom had had more freedom she would have more to spread around. And I hope my children will not have to think so hard when they say yes to their children.
Others have mentioned feeling lighter and less bound by "have to." It doesn't seem to matter whether they start with "educational" issues or general parenting issues, it all builds together. All the relationships get better.
photo by Sandra Dodd (hot-tub stove, open)
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