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Friday, November 18, 2022

"Prior"—what comes first?

Someone inquiring about unschooling once complained:
"You seem to be saying that the two priorities are mutually exclusive."
Joyce wrote:

When we're trying to achieve two goals there will be times when a decision will lead towards one but away from another.

I responded:

Priorities have literally to do with rankings. Two "priorities" can't be equal, or there is no "priority" (first-in-lineness, precedence). So if they are to be called "priorities" then I suppose one has to exclude the other at that point of decision making. But people can have two favorite causes or missions or concerns, and lots of times the precedence of them won't matter. When it does, that's when they learn their priorities.


Both of us wrote a bit more than that, at SandraDodd.com/priorities
photo by Drew

Older buildings are reflected in the window; Silver City, New Mexico, a few years ago.

Tuesday, April 19, 2022

Confident, happy and glad

When my oldest was 18, I was recounting some current doings, and concluded:
He's confident in his skin, in his mind, and in his being.
He's not afraid of his parents.
He goes to sleep happy and he wakes up glad.

My priorities could have been different.
Priorities
photo by Roya Dedeaux

Monday, April 5, 2021

Value and priorities

floor scenario with kitchen bottles and toy dinosaursSize, age, volume, cost...
Value and priorities, for unschoolers, might begin to surprise you and continue to do so.

Don't judge importance too quickly.

Learning is everywhere.
SandraDodd.com/mindfulparenting
photo by Lynda Rains

Friday, January 27, 2012

No conflict

In response to an inquiry about priorities among principles, and whether learning should come before safety, peace, kindness or a strong marriage:

For me, safety is big.

Peace doesn't conflict with learning; it aids it.

Kindness doesn't conflict with learning; it bolsters it.

Learning, peace and kindness make marriages better.


SandraDodd.com/priorities

Photo by Sandra Dodd, of a spider in a window of the Winchester City Mill, in Hampshire. I was glad their priority wasn't to vacuum constantly, because seeing that dead spider was one of the best things of the day.
We were in the room over the millstream.
It was raining.

Sunday, September 4, 2011

The value of values


It will help unschooling for a family to accept the value of learning and of living peacefully. One family might value industry over music; one might value art over organization. But if they value their relationships and the comfort and safety of others in their family, they can thrive. As unschooling grows, you will find your priorities.

SandraDodd.com/priorities
photo by Sandra Dodd

Saturday, January 16, 2016

Directions

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Priorities are what will help one decide whether this moment's next step should be to the left, or the right, forward, or back, or just to stand and wait.



SandraDodd.com/priorities
photo by Chrissy Florence

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Priorities


Parents who make meeting their children's needs a higher priority will find that life is good and they, often unexpectedly, find that they are, themselves, less needy when they feel like really good parents.
—Pam Sorooshian

SandraDodd.com/priorities
photo by Sandra Dodd

Friday, April 7, 2017

Confident, happy, glad

I wrote this of Kirby, in 2005 when he was 18 years old:
He's confident in his skin, in his mind, and in his being.
He's not afraid of his parents.
He goes to sleep happy and he wakes up glad.

My priorities could have been different.


Kirby is 30 now. Yesterday he contacted me about plans for adopting his wife's daughter, who is eight, so her name will be Dodd, too. They recently signed a mortgage on the house where she has her own beautiful room.


Context for the top quote about Kirby is in a story here:
SandraDodd.com/priorities
photo by Rachael Rodgers

Saturday, June 11, 2022

Choices, priorities and locations

Laying "have to" on our kids, or on ourselves or on outsiders is less useful and healthy than looking at rights and choices and priorities and locations.

Can you jump on the bed?

Depends whose bed, which bed, where, when. Is someone sleeping? Is it an antique? Who owns this bed?


SandraDodd.com/etiquette
(original, in a discussion on facebook)
photo by some realtor, once,
in a house that's now Holly Dodd's

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Happy and Glad

I wrote this of Kirby, in 2005 when he was 18 years old:
He's confident in his skin, in his mind, and in his being.
He's not afraid of his parents.
He goes to sleep happy and he wakes up glad.

My priorities could have been different.


SandraDodd.com/priorities
photo by Sandra Dodd

Friday, April 21, 2023

Beliefs and priorities

Principles instead of rules means not to decide in advance what you're going to do, but to know what you believe and what your priorities are, and then to make decisions based on that. Not to behave arbitrarily, but thoughtfully.

Principles of Learimg (chat transcript)
photo by Holly Dodd, 2014, India

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Good life; less needy


"Parents who do make meeting their children's needs a higher priority will find that life is good and they, often unexpectedly, find that they are, themselves, less needy when they feel like really good parents."
—Pam Sorooshian

SandraDodd.com/priorities
Halloween photo by Lydia Koltai

Thursday, August 1, 2019

How Important is your child?

If your child is more important than your vision of your child, life becomes easier.

SandraDodd.com/priorities
photo by Sandra Dodd of Marty (in front) and Kirby (in red)

A second edition of The Big Book of Unschooling is available.
A wedge of the photo above appeared on the cover of the first edition.

Friday, December 6, 2013

Life becomes easier

If your child is more important than your vision of your child, life becomes easier.snow on trees
SandraDodd.com/priorities
photo by Sandra Dodd

Friday, November 18, 2016

Watch your step!

Meredith Novak wrote:
"I don't think too much focus on either rights or liberty is good for unschooling. When parents are invested in their rights, it's easy to step on kids' liberty. Worse, it's easy to step on kids' hearts."
—Meredith Novak
(I dropped one clause, above, because
it referred to someone else's quote. —Sandra *)

SandraDodd.com/priorities
photo by Sandra Dodd

Saturday, December 5, 2020

Theoretical peace

For a single person to dedicate himself or herself to "a cause" is all well and good, but for a parent to take one moment from his child's peaceful life to try to make theoretical peace 10,000 miles away is bad.


I know the argument, that there is no peace until all have peace, but that is a big old fallacy and foolishness. There never has been universal peace and never, ever could be.

Priorities
photo by Sandra Dodd

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Safety and communication

My children have no reason to dodge or manipulate..., because Keith and I haven't concocted any made-up arbitrary rules and their accompanying punishments. With safety and communication as principles and priorities, we've had safe, communicative kids.

page 46 (or 50) of The Big Book of Unschooling
photo by Sandra Dodd

P.S.: That probably only works only if you begin very early.

Friday, July 15, 2022

"N" is for Nest

This photo is the background for the "N" in "Learn" on the newer Learn Nothing Day logo.
There's a basis, a foundation, on which confident, workable unschooling is built, and most of it involves confidence, and confidence can't come without examination of one's purpose, priorities and principles. It takes a while to figure those things out, and while they can be figured out at the same time unschooling is unfolding, and will probably continue to evolve (maybe even after the kids are grown), it's not "nothing" to do that.

The photo first appeared here in 2020: Be positively positive!
Thank you, Shonna Morgan.

Tuesday, August 2, 2016

Plans change

When you can, allow for flexible plans. Your vision of the moment might not be as good as what could spontaneously occur. Sometimes, instead of calling your child back, follow her out of the frame.
SandraDodd.com/priorities
(New words here, many good words there.)
photo by Beth Lamb

Wednesday, April 7, 2021

Better living through priorities

...picking up in the middle of an exchange...


It doesn’t seem good for learning, to stop them from doing what seems interesting to them in the moment.

If you set your priority on learning and peace, it makes other questions easier.
Chat with Sandra Dodd on Mommy Chats, 4/25/07
photo by Kinsey Norris