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Wednesday, March 16, 2022
Kind and safe
photo by Destiny Dodd
Saturday, March 4, 2023
Safe and happy success
I can spend my energy on limiting my child's world so that he will be safe and happy or I can spend my energy on helping my child learn the skills to navigate our world himself so that he will be safe and happy. I think the latter has a better chance of success in the long term.
—Eva Witsel
photo by Roya Dedeaux
Saturday, August 8, 2020
Safe inside
If it happens that there are dangerous things outside the house, try to keep the inside safe and comfortable.
Happy, safe and comfortable
photo by Gail Higgins
Happy, safe and comfortable
photo by Gail Higgins
Wednesday, November 8, 2023
Safe at home
photo by Julie D
Saturday, October 26, 2019
Happy, safe and comfortable
Jenny Cyphers wrote:
There are so many small generous happy-making things that parents can do for their kids throughout the day, and week, and month and year.
When kids are accustomed to feeling happy and safe and comfortable, they can move through life knowing that life is happy, safe, and comfortable, and that even when it sometimes isn't, they can always come home to find it and feel it again.
Building an Unschooling Nest
photo by Elise Lauterbach
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There are so many small generous happy-making things that parents can do for their kids throughout the day, and week, and month and year.
When kids are accustomed to feeling happy and safe and comfortable, they can move through life knowing that life is happy, safe, and comfortable, and that even when it sometimes isn't, they can always come home to find it and feel it again.
—Jenny Cyphers
photo by Elise Lauterbach
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Something looks like this:
child,
flower,
furnishings
Thursday, January 10, 2013
The same and the safe
My favorite "new rule" has always been that learning comes first. Given choices between doing one thing or another, I try to go toward the thing that's newest for my kids, and most intriguing. "New and different" outranks "We do it all the time, same place same way." But there are comfort-activities, and to be rid of all of them would be as limiting as to only do routine, same, safe things. So we find a balance. Or we tweak the same and the safe, changing it enough to make it especially memorable from time to time.
photo by Holly Dodd
Tuesday, June 12, 2012
Safe place
If your relationship with your child is about you leading him along with you instead of pushing him away, you will be his safe place.
Make yourself his safe place.
photo by Sandra Dodd
Wednesday, June 24, 2015
Safe and happy—how?
Eva Witsel wrote:
I can spend my energy on limiting my child's world so that he will be safe and happy or I can spend my energy on helping my child learn the skills to navigate our world himself so that he will be safe and happy. I think the latter has a better chance of success in the long term.
—Eva Witsel
photo by Sandra Dodd
(color photo, in daytime,
though it's spookily dark)
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Something looks like this:
automobile,
sky,
structures
Wednesday, July 29, 2015
Self-awareness
photo by Sandra Dodd
Tuesday, March 6, 2018
Longterm safety and happiness
"I can spend my energy on limiting my child's world so that he will be safe and happy or I can spend my energy on helping my child learn the skills to navigate our world himself so that he will be safe and happy. I think the latter has a better chance of success in the long term."
—Eva Witsel
photo by Cátia Maciel
Thursday, January 5, 2012
Limits
"Conventional wisdom" (those truisms that too-often aren't true) says "children need limits," and that good parents have lots of limits (the more limits the better the parent). We've all seen (and some have been in) families where stifling limits caused the very problems they were expected to prevent. But without a counter-mantra to "children need limits" it's easy for parents to fear that it must be true or people wouldn't keep saying it.
If by "limits" people mean "safe boundaries," sure! If by "limits" people mean "someone to watch and care," absolutely! But what people usually mean by "limits" is parents who say "no / don't / stop / forget it / when you're older."
When unschoolers discuss limits they're often discussing arbitrary limits, trumped up to make the parents feel good, or used as magical talismans to guarantee that their children will be creative, healthy and safe. What creates much more magic is to help children discover and do and be.
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Thursday, November 27, 2014
Safe, respectful and empowering
Joyce Fetteroll wrote:
Unschooling is the opposite of both authoritarian and hands-off parenting. It's neither about creating rules to remote parent nor about letting kids jump off cliffs. It's about being more involved in kids lives. It's about accompanying them as they explore, helping them find safe, respectful and empowering ways to tackle what intrigues them.
—Joyce Fetteroll
2009
2009
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Friday, July 31, 2020
Right here, again
Holly Dodd wrote a warm memory:
I am seven years old. I am sitting comfortably with a convenient, safe place to rest my face. Safe. On my father's lap . . . Knowing it is not only ok, but expected of me, to fall asleep. Right here where I already am. My dad will tuck me in when he is done holding me, and it will hardly be my business.
photo by Holly Dodd
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Saturday, June 25, 2022
Safe, busy and happy
Be with your kids and make sure their lives are safe and busy and happy.
photo by Cátia Maciel
Thursday, November 17, 2011
Safe and simple
Someone fearful of "media violence" wrote, "I know this is a complex topic."
Joyce Fetteroll responded:
Only when it's mixed in with traditional parenting, school, disconnection.
In unschooling families it's simple: we help our kids explore what interests them in ways that are safe. And the side effects are that they find being loved and trusted and accepted for who they are is a whole lot more attractive than hatefulness and meanness. When their lives are full to overflowing with love, they don't need violence to get something they're lacking. All they need is to ask and they have a parent who will help them get it.
It's really that simple! Not complex at all.
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Saturday, August 25, 2012
Pleasant and safe
If home isn't pleasant and safe, a young adult will leave with just anybody. If "anything is better than home," that creates a dangerous situation.
but here's a cousin-link: SandraDodd.com/youngadults
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Thursday, March 20, 2014
Memories
"I am seven years old. I am sitting comfortably with a convenient, safe place to rest my face. Safe. On my father's lap. I can feel the heat from a fire. I can hear voices—I can recognize many of them. I hear singing. I feel singing. The vibrations of my dad's baritone voice through his wool clothing…"
—Holly Dodd
photo by Sandra Dodd
Monday, April 24, 2023
Safe and fed and warm
Learning requires a sense of safety.
Fear blocks learning. Shame and embarrassment, stress and anxiety—these block learning.
Sandra Dodd:
So don't pressure, coerce or confuse your children.
Smile and laugh and provide.
Keep them safe and fed and warm and they will grow all sorts of ways.
photo by Belinda Dutch
Wednesday, April 15, 2020
Safe explorations
In unschooling families it's simple: we help our kids explore what interests them in ways that are safe.
—Joyce Fetteroll
photo by Ida Marie Stenild Coltau
Monday, August 12, 2024
Safer thinking
Be expansive in thinking about safety. That's safer.
photo by Cathy Koetsier
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