photo by Janine
Monday, April 11, 2022
Adult decisions
photo by Janine
Wednesday, March 16, 2022
Kind and safe
photo by Destiny Dodd
Tuesday, March 1, 2022
More peaceful behavior
Adrenaline is a big part of an anger reaction — the "fight or flight" reaction is a very difficult one to reason ourselves out of once it hits. In addition to giving us quick reactions and additional strength, adrenaline gives us "tunnel vision" — we are only able to think about, or even see, one or maybe two variables at a moment (as opposed to when our conscious minds function normally, and we can juggle 5-7 variables in a situation).
I hope it doesn't sound like I'm just philosophizing (in a non-helpful way) about anger. I have collected these tidbits about anger because it has played a big part in my own life. It is only in the past few years that I can consistently count on myself to act the way I want to, even when "driven to anger." Knowing these things about anger have helped my own self-awareness, which led to much more peaceful behavior on my part.
photo by Karen James
Thursday, February 17, 2022
Discernment
Decision making requires lots of data and thought and freedom and discernment.
photo by Holly Dodd
Tuesday, January 4, 2022
Evidence galore
All those questions about how a kid would learn if he didn't go to school and my answers were things like "I think people learn best when they learn on their own terms," "I trust," or "I believe."
Bah! If I'd only thought about it a little harder! There's evidence galore! There's evidence throughout human existence. There's evidence in the fossil record. Stone age evidence and Bronze Age evidence and evidence in every archaeological site in the world. Humans learn.
They learn what the other humans around them are doing. They learn by living.
And now there's the evidence of my own son's life. He is surrounded by the things that interest humans in the twenty-first century. He is surrounded by the whole of human history. He is a citizen of the world in a time when access to information has never been easier. He is learning all the time.
The Evidence of Years—Deb Lewis
That boy later learned Italian, and visited Italy.
He let me use some of his photos.
photo by Dylan Lewis
Saturday, November 27, 2021
Following interests
To unschool, you begin with your child's interests. If she's interested in birds, you read—or browse, toss aside, just look at the pictures in—books on birds, watch videos on birds, talk about birds, research and build (or buy) bird feeders and birdhouses, keep a journal on birds, record and ponder their behavior, search the web for items about birds, go to bird sanctuaries, draw birds, color a few pictures in the Dover Birds of Prey coloring book, play around with feathers, study Leonardo DaVinci's drawings of flying machines that he based on birds, watch Alfred Hitchcock's "The Birds."
But DON'T go whole hog on this. Gauge how much to do and when by your child's reactions. Let her say no thanks. Let her choose. Let her interest set the pace. If it takes years, let it take years. If it lasts an hour, let it last an hour.
photo by Catherine Hassall
Thursday, November 25, 2021
Right here, right now
Marta said she was paraphrasing me, but I like her wording.
photo by Sandra Dodd
Saturday, October 30, 2021
Lighting up the darkness
SandraDodd.com/light
photo by Sarah Dickinson
Friday, October 1, 2021
Rare and precious sharing
Families who share the ways in which unschooling has improved their families and their lives are practicing a kind of transparency that is rare and precious. They are letting others peek into their "private lives." Because they think something has made life better, they reveal things about themselves, to pass that benefit on to others who would like to make their own lives better. |
photo by Brie Jontry
Monday, August 30, 2021
A little more interesting
photo by Belinda Dutch
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Sunday, June 27, 2021
Like fireworks
When Kirby was seven and eight, I used to see others his age who were pulled out of school already knowing how to read and write and think wistfully that maybe that would make everything easier. In the longrun, it didn't. Those kids have issues about that reading and writing that Kirby doesn't have. Their handwriting is prettier, but their spelling isn't always better, and their ideas aren't always better. But Kirby has a poise and a confidence that I think school would have immediately begun to dismantle and scatter. So it did take him longer to read, but in the meantime he was learning like crazy, like fireworks. |
photo by Erika Davis-Pitre—not of Kirby, but of his daughter
(used once before, with different text)
Friday, June 18, 2021
A step toward joy
Some of the things that help people be confidently in the moment, feeling satisfied and content are:
At first it might be relief and not joy, but as relief is a step away from fear, more relief will be progress toward joy.
- Breathing
- Gratitude
- Happy thoughts
- Fondness
- Acceptance
photo by Ester Siroky
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Tuesday, June 8, 2021
Impermanence AGAIN!?
It's true; the subscription provider has changed. Feedburner is closing at the end of June, and another company offered to import five blogs for me, so if you want to add any of the others to your feed, they are
There are TWO ways to get to the blog from e-mail now—clicking the post's title, or "read more" at the bottom. A new option is to get a push notification on your phone, so for those who didn't like the e-mail's appearance on a phone, I hope this is way better. Changes do not thrill me, and I'm getting old. But Vlad Gurdiga is still young and enthusiastic. He helped with this move as he has helped with many other things involving my collections— moving thousands of photos from photobucket (which kept on changing and losing things and charging more money) to SandraDodd.com (which he moved from yahoo to another host company). Thank you Vlad, again. |
Tuesday, May 25, 2021
The easy way?
A: It depends what you're trying to resist.
photo by Sandra Dodd
Monday, May 24, 2021
The benefit of untangling
Any parent with unresolved childhood trauma might want to gradually start untangling those memories for the benefit of your children, of yourself, of your partner, of your family, and in order for unschooling to work well.
Untangling
photo by Alex Polikowsky
Monday, April 19, 2021
Present and open
Listen, feel, look. Something will be beautiful, even just for a moment, if you are present and open.
How much beauty would make a beautiful moment?
What could be set aside so that beauty could fill its place?
Turn your face toward beauty.
Turn your heart toward beauty.
photo by Sandra Dodd
Saturday, April 10, 2021
Directly and clearly
See also: Practice Watching elsewhere on Just Add Light and Stir
photo by Sarah Dickinson
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Thursday, March 4, 2021
The possibility of restoration
and there is a transcript!
photo by Elise Lauterbach
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Monday, February 15, 2021
Light, shadows, and thoughts
Which is better—a bridge, or
a photo of a bridge?
photo by Karen James
Sunday, January 31, 2021
Where learning abounds
photo by Elise Lauterbach
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