Years ago, in a discussion of whether kids should need to ask, or what to think about kids asking for permission for things even though the mom is going to say yes, I wrote:
Maybe they're coming to you as a font of "yes!"
That's a cool thing, if every time they want something loving and positive, they run to mom, huh?
. . . .
My big guys still ask little things, like "Can I have this last soda?" What that means is "had you dibsed it?" or "Is this perhaps NOT the last soda, so I'll feel better about taking it?"
If I say "Sure," they're drinking a soda I gave them, and I bet it tastes better than one they snagged knowing they had "the right" to drink it, but they wanted the blessing.
NEW NOTE:
Be grateful for opportunities to be kind to your children.
photo by Sandra Dodd
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I'm totally stealing that footnote, I love it!
ReplyDeleteIf by "stealing" you mean quoting me, that's not stealing, if you put my name with it. ;-)
ReplyDeleteEver since I "found" you on the internet a few years ago, my life has been opened up to a whole new way of living. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me learn to say yes. I am so grateful. Thanks to you now when I see a "no" button, like this featured here- http://bit.ly/JqqRz4, I do not laugh. Instead, I think, wow, that is so sad, why not say YES!
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