Relationships and Wholeness

"Intellectually, I got unschooling all the way from the very beginning. The part that took more time was relationships and wholeness. When I got THAT, that is when things started happening in the direction that made unschooling work great!"

—Jenny Cyphers

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photo by Jenny Cyphers (and it's a link)
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Lively abundance

Lisa J Haugen wrote:

There are very wealthy people who have no concept of abundance. There are very poor people who feel very rich indeed. . . .Happiness, smiles, liveliness, peace—those are things an unschooling parent can go far on, even if their budget is tight. —Lisa J Haugen

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photo by Karen James

Flowing play

One of my guiding principles is that I want my children's worlds to be sparkly. There goes the dull and the darkness. Easily not chosen, not an option.

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photo by Julie D, in Leiden, at a playground
also seen here: Clearer and larger

The path to peace

"One of the biggest shifts in my unschooling journey has been changing my focus—staying in the present, letting go of the need to have things match my expectations (or those of the school world around me), relaxing my grip on What The Future Is Going To Bring. Letting go of the need to control the results is the path to living peacefully, because it keeps me oriented to The Process, to living mindfully in the present."

—Leah Rose

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photo by Sandra Dodd
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Polite and confident

"Lead by example. Be polite and confident, show trust and respect to those who deserve it and your kids will do the same."

—Lyle Perry

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photo by Sandra Dodd

Bigger, wiser, more whole

Giving children choices helps create a partnership, it helps them learn, it makes them bigger, wiser, more whole.

Pulling them out or pushing them into things keeps them smaller and more powerless.

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photo by Sandra Dodd

Choices, for partners

When you choose to say something or to wait, think of which will be more patient, or less critical. If you decide to say something, think of two things and choose the one that is closer to the person you want to be. If you choose not to say anything, consider your posture and demeanor. Choose to be gentle, and not to express negative emotion.

Sometimes choose quiet space, but not hateful silence.

With practice, it gets easier.


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photo by Sandra Dodd
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