Sunday, February 17, 2019

Little bitty bits

The whole world is made of little bits of information. Yesterday, at my house, Holly asked who first did "Dream Lover." I was thinking someone like Dion, or Bobby Vee, and while I was thinking she said "Bobby Darin," and I said no, not first.

Spoiler: I was wrong.

She pulled the computer out of her pocket, looked the song up, and played the beginnings of a couple, on Spotify. "That one!" I said, to the one by Dion. It listed Ben E. King, among others, so we figured (falsely) that it was his first, THEN Dion, then Bobby Darin.

Does it matter? To us, it does. To music history, and royalties, it matters. As to political correctness and the basis of assumptions, it ties in to all sorts of socio-political, economic, maybe geographical aspects. Trivia is what knowledge is made of. Enough little bits form a rich whole.

We could each explain why we thought what about whom, in all that. Those explanations would lead to other trivia, stories of other songs, writers, and musicians.

Any interest can lead to all interests. Let curiosity flow.

These will (while they're there) link to recordings at YouTube, but if you have Spotify or another music service, you can find recordings by these and many other people. There are other songs with similar names, too. I will embed Bobby Darin's version, because he wrote it, but it's not the one I knew as a kid.

"Dream Lover," Bobby Darin (composer), April 1959
"Dream Lover," Dion, November 1961
"Dream Lover," Ben E. King, February, 1962

Notes on Wikipedia and SongFacts:
"Dream Lover" is a song written by Bobby Darin and recorded by him on April 6, 1959.
Dream Lover by Bobby Darin

Trivial posts about trivia
(or profound reflections on very real learning)

Saturday, February 16, 2019


Children WANT to act in adult ways, so it's important for unschooling parents to be the sort of adults children want to emulate, right then. Not when they grow up, but now.
From a facebook discussion about helpful unschooled kids.
photo by Sandra Dodd

Friday, February 15, 2019

Mysterious elements

You don't need all the answers right away.

Sometimes a mystery is the best part!
Mentions of Mysteries
photo by Robin Bentley

Thursday, February 14, 2019

More than possible

Lyle Perry wrote:

"I know how scary it is to think about letting go of what's 'normal', and I know it seems impossible to think about your kids learning on their own, but it's all very possible. More than possible. It's waiting to happen."
—Lyle Perry
photo by Gail Higgins

Wednesday, February 13, 2019

Bank it up!

Emotions are kind of like banking, in a way. If you deposit peaceful times and kindness and positive thoughts and joy, then you build up a stronger account of hope and all that.

Happy goes in the bank.

from the transcript of a chat on Mental Health
Chrissy Florence photo

Tuesday, February 12, 2019

How will their learning be used?

Pam Sorooshian wrote this:

The time spent mothering and playing is not time away from real learning—not to be rushed through to get to "the good stuff" as some may think of it. It is essential to real learning and, really, to allowing the child to grow up as a whole, integrated human being.

Homeschoolers think a lot about learning—but they often focus on learning to read, write, do math, or learning science or history, etc. Unschoolers tend to take that kind of learning for granted, it happens along the way. Instead, as we get more and more into unschooling, we tend to focus on things like kindness and creativity and honesty—all those character traits that will determine "how" their learning will be used in their lives.
—Pam Sorooshian
photo by Sandra Dodd

Monday, February 11, 2019

Strewing, and teens

Someone asked about strewing for a teen. I wrote:

Your family needs to be interested and interesting. Go places. Bring things and people in. Visit friends of yours who have cool stuff or do interesting things. Ask him to go with you if you take the dog to the vet. Drive home different ways and take your time. Putz around. Go to the mall some morning when it's not at all full of teens, and windowshop.

If you can afford it, find something in another town like a play, concert, museum, event and take him there. Stay overnight.

Go touristing somewhere not too far from you. Like if you had out-of-town guests, but just go with your son.

There are other ideas, too, at
photo by Karen James

Sunday, February 10, 2019

Whole, healthy, strong and free

We can see how controlling food is related to controlling education, sleep, playtime and other areas of our childrens' lives. We can mess them up early (which our culture applauds) or we can learn to let them grow whole and healthy and strong and free, not crippled in mind and spirit.
photo by Sandra Dodd
2012 original

Saturday, February 9, 2019

Undamaged curiosity

Unschooling is about learning, and not about teaching. Unschooling parents rely on their children's native, undamaged curiosity and on the interesting world around them.
photo by Collen Prieto

Friday, February 8, 2019


No matter where a person is, a step up is a step up. Happier is happier.
BE better
photo by Rippy Dusseldorp

Thursday, February 7, 2019

Older every day

If you're the preferred parent, be there, and ask the second-best parent to do back-up for you, instead of so much direct interaction. Every day, the child is older. Every single day.
Protection and enrichment
photo by Roya Dedeaux

Wednesday, February 6, 2019

Common connection

"I still consider monkey platters the best way to connect kids and teens when they come over and may not have anything in common."
—Leticia King
A Simple Gesture
photo by Martialia Deb Files

Tuesday, February 5, 2019

Every action, an investment

"Knowing what you know, set your husband and his daughters up for peaceful, calm, successful interactions. Think of every action as an investment."
—Karen James
Actions as investments
(Longer original, at Radical Unschooling Info on Facebook)
photo by Chrissy Florence

Monday, February 4, 2019

Request for help

There are over 3,000 posts here now! A few good ones are linked below. If we were all in one place, I would put a jar by the door, or pass the hat. Perhaps there would be cake.

Please help me with expenses. I asked in 2017, and skipped last year.

Short request

Slightly longer version of request    or way too Lengthy request

Those links have info for those who would prefer to send a check, too.

(The link that used to be here wasn't going where it should have. Sorry.)

photo (a link) by Holly Dodd

Natural Learning flows
Growth is good.

Sunday, February 3, 2019

Many gifts

"Cultivating an attitude of gratitude for the many gifts in my life has taken me from a place of hopelessness in my mind, to one of abundant possibilities. Because my life *looks* more abundant to me, every moment holds more potential. That doesn't mean my life is all wonderful and easy. It does mean that I have access to more emotional, creative, and intellectual tools to help me move toward the kind of life I want for myself and my family."
—Karen James
photo by Amy Milstein

Saturday, February 2, 2019

Fascinating and important

Joyce Fetteroll, responding years ago to someone looking for the educational content in Thomas the Tank Engins:

I think it helps not to see it as educational content, because what he’s getting out of it that’s important to him very likely doesn’t look at all like something taught in school.

He may be absorbing things about relationships, accents, effective story telling techniques, the usefulness of color and so on. All those are really fascinating and important to some people and figure largely in the careers they choose.
—Joyce Fetteroll
photo by Sandra Dodd

Friday, February 1, 2019

A toddler's whim

Dawn Todd once wrote:
Whim is such a dismissive word.

A toddler's "whim" is their urge to explore and understand! One of my greatest joys as a parent is being able to facilitate that!
—Dawn Todd
photo by Lydia Koltai


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