photo by Cátia Maciel
Saturday, April 20, 2024
Seeing the magic and the joy
photo by Cátia Maciel
Saturday, November 25, 2023
No other way
Read a little, try a little, wait a while and watch. There is no other way to learn this than gradually. There is no other way to learn to see clearly how it works than by trying it a bit at a time and seeing how putting learning first changes other things—how putting peace ahead of schedules changes things.
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Friday, November 24, 2023
Naming things
Each model of the universe requires identification, sorting, relationships between things, and other patterns. Whatever seems trivial in one context is of central importance in another.
Names and words and labels and descriptors have a glory about them.
photo by Denaire Nixon, of a young red-footed booby
Friday, November 17, 2023
Step toward learning
"Facing fears" sounds scary, intimidating and negative. Stepping toward learning is much more positive. Being with children is easy; they're already right there. Move toward them, instead of milling around with fears and vulnerability.
photo by Denaire Nixon
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Monday, August 28, 2023
Choosing joy
I saw choosing joy was SO much better....really...unschooling and life just flowed....the relationships piece of an unschooling lifestyle was so much more full and sweet. My mind was calmer. It helped me deal better with those niggling fears that popped up about unschooling when I chose to be in THIS MOMENT....seeing the joy and the fun of the moment settled me instead of me stewing for days about if my kids were learning or what about this, or that.
photo by Sarah S.
Friday, June 9, 2023
Seeing gifts
We just watched a documentary called Lost Castles of England. My 10 year old loves Star Trek and so he was particularly thrilled that it was narrated by Leonard Nimoy. 🙂
We paused - oh - probably at least 25 times during the documentary to look up things ranging from "When was the Bronze Age?" and "What exactly is Stonehenge anyway?" to "Who were the Normans?" and "How exactly big is England?" and "They killed the garrison... What's a garrison??"
We also paused a bunch of times as he described how he's going to be getting up early tomorrow to start work in Minecraft right away - he plans to build a motte-and-bailey timber castle, as described in the documentary. He asked me to keep the documentary in our Netflix queue so he can refer to it as needed for the particulars.
When the show ended, he stood up from the couch and proclaimed "That was AWESOME. And the whole time it was Spock. Spock just GIVING you interesting history stuff!!!"
It hit me right away that he didn't say "Spock teaching you history" or "A show teaching you history" or anything about teaching at all. He doesn't see things in terms of Being Taught. In his mind, he received a gift of new knowledge and facts this evening. A gift given by Spock, which made it all the better. 🙂
Note from Sandra:
Colleen's son, Robbie, is twenty years old, as I share this. The story above has been on the page about "learning" for a long time, quietly helping others.
photo by Sandra Dodd
Thursday, May 18, 2023
Seeing enough
See learning as your priority, and you will begin to see it more and more.
photo by Sandra Dodd
Wednesday, January 4, 2023
Gradually learning; seeing clearly
Read a little, try a little, wait a while and watch. There is no other way to learn about unschooling than gradually. There is no other way to learn to see clearly how it works than by trying it a bit at a time and seeing how putting learning first changes other things—how putting peace ahead of schedules changes things.
photo by Cathy Koetsier
Saturday, December 24, 2022
Rejoice
Don't be afraid of happy connections and rearrangements. Rejoice!
Robbie Prieto's nativity scene, once upon a time;
photo by Colleen Prieto, his mom
Monday, December 12, 2022
Wonderful warm feelings
When we stretch beyond seeing more than only one or two possibilities, our children's worlds become exponentially larger, with more potential for laughter and learning and wonderful warm feelings of connection.
photo by Cátia Maciel
Tuesday, October 25, 2022
Able to see learning
The parents must be willing to believe that their children can learn.
Unless your children are given a real opportunity to show you how children learn, to show you that it works, you will not see it.
The parents have to be
willing to see learning
able to see it
and desirous of seeing it.
You can kill unschooling on the vine with "That won't work."
photo by Lisa Jonick
Wednesday, October 19, 2022
Two for one
Connections and contrasts are the way brains sort. What is the same, and what is different?
Covers of songs; different paintings of the same object or building or person; woodworking projects made from the same pattern by different carpenters with different types of wood... Examining pairs is like playing a game of "spot the difference." Each difference might have a natural explanation, or was a conscious decision on the part of an artist.
What a rich life you and your children might have in those moments that seeing, playing and learning are the same valuable substance.
photo by Dan Vilter
Wednesday, August 31, 2022
Elation is good.
If something causes biochemical euphoria or elation, and if the goal is learning, and peace, seek that out. Pay extra for that. Clear your calendar to help your child obtain that.Virginia Warren:
To the extent that our brains are chemical computers, dopamine is the program that we experience as happiness. Seeing "getting a dopamine hit" in a negative light is literally disapproving of happiness.
photo by Karen James
Saturday, May 15, 2021
Ever-changing opportunities
Unschooled children can organize their knowledge in free and better ways. They never need to feel they are through learning, or past the point that they can begin something new. Each thing they discover can be useful eventually. If we help provide them with ever-changing opportunities to see, hear, smell, taste, feel, move and discuss, what they know will exceed in breadth and depth what any school's curriculum would have covered. It won't be the same set of materials—it will be clearer and larger but different.
photo by Catherine Hassall
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Wednesday, April 14, 2021
Surprising changes
Sometimes deschooling works best when there are surprising (maybe even shocking) surprises, or stark refutations of what the mom has “guaranteed will happen,” or is positive can ONLY happen—that having candy out all the time will make kids throw up, have cavities, get fat. The stories of kids in the presence of the same old bowl of candy asking for vegetables and fruit are important stories to share. |
Choices can’t happen without choices, and choices don’t happen well with a mom hovering around and predicting negative outcomes. Lots of people have reported that their experiences with food, and unschooling, changed everything. Seeing kids learning about food, and making choices about food, made other choices seem to make total sense. |
photos by Ester Siroky (mushroom basket) and Elise Lauterbach (mushroom golf)
Monday, February 1, 2021
Learning, not being taught
The last holdout for some people is "he taught himself..." but maybe that should be the FIRST to go. Teaching comes from someone WITH skills or knowledge passing them on to those without them. If I taught myself to play guitar, I would have had to have known how first.
The information was being sucked in by me, not pushed in by me or anyone else. I didn't PUT the information inside me, I drew it in.
photo by Sandra Dodd, of bricks with Florida on the other side
Saturday, December 26, 2020
Curiosity and learning
When considering what to do, where to go, what to bring into your home, think of things your children can experience directly, thoughtfully. Don't ask them to report, past conversational exchange. They might want to think about it privately and come to some of their own conclusions. They might think about it for the rest of their lives, if you let it be sweet, and their own.
photo by Amber Ivey
Monday, December 14, 2020
When is enough enough?
See learning as your priority, and you will begin to see it more and more.
photo by Elise Lauterbach
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Saturday, December 12, 2020
Learning not to "have to"
There are a few phrases that can keep parents from really relaxing into unschooling. Letting go of "teaching" and "have to" will go a long way toward seeing learning and choices. And not just seeing them, but feeling them comfortably, living with them, and with them in you.
photo by Eva Witsel
Wednesday, October 7, 2020
First, become confident
Confidence in unschooling can't come from other people's accounts. It can only come from seeing one's own children relaxing into learning effortlessly through play, conversations, observations, a rich life.
"Facing fears" sounds scary, intimidating and negative. Stepping toward learning is much more positive. Being with children is easy; they're already right there. Move toward them, instead of milling around with fears and vulnerability.
photo by Tara Joe Farrell
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