Better is better

When I write and speak about people trying to be better, some balk or resist, or say "You want us to try to be better than others?"

It's personal, not competitive.

This is the better I'm talking about:

Be better than you would have been if you had not thought "I would like to be better."

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photo by Sandra Dodd

Relations, solidifying

There IS something to unschooling, and it's not the easiest thing to learn. It involves some simple ideas that can be hard to implement. it can be a HUGE deal—it can help parents have relationships with their children they never dreamed possible, and it can solidify marriages by helping the parents become more philosophical about what relationships are about and how they can work well.

(Betteanne C. quoted me/Sandra in December 2013. Original is somewhere on the facebook discussion.)

SandraDodd.com/partners/
photo by Holly Dodd

Partner and friend

Janine Davies wrote, in the midst of a longer account:
For me, that all begins and ends with being a good mum in the eyes and minds of my children, and going forward being remembered as a kind respectful and happy mum—someone they could trust implicitly, and who was their partner and friend.

Hopefully they will then carry that forward to how they treat their children, regardless of what the current trend is, or fears they have, or the current scaremongering circulating. Even if they don't have children of their own, my hope is that they treat and speak to all children that they come in contact with throughout their lives with the same respect and kindness that they afford their partners and friends, and that they treat them like the people they are.

—Janine Davies
(read the rest)

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The present moment

Melissa Wiley wrote, beautifully:

Patience is about trying to endure the present moment until a better one comes. Unschooling is about enjoying the present moment for what it is.

—Melissa Wiley

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photo by Denaire Nixon, of new snow on an old saddle

Think, don't "know"

Lyle Perry wrote:

A definition for unschooling is as intangible as a definition for living.

I think, more importantly than anything else, unschooling gives a person the opportunity to really THINK, and not just "know".

—Lyle Perry

source of quote (Lyle as "Unschooling Dad")
Near the bottom; it's easy to find because he accidentally posted it three times.
photo by Cass Kotrba

Far-reaching effects

Dede wrote:

I finally let go of my control issue around TV and video. In its place I found trust which created a deepening of love and respect in my relationship with my son and my family and everything else in my life. It is amazing how far reaching the effect was. Just wanted to share this.

—Dede

Unschooling: Getting It
SandraDodd.com/gettingit
photo by Megan Valnes

Patient and kind

Being patient and kind makes you a person who is patient and kind.

The quote's not from here, but this might help: Parental Authority
photo by Sandra Dodd, of a picture in a charity shop in Surrey

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Found the quote in 2025 on Always Learning