photo by Rippy Dusseldorp (or maybe a Graham-Dusseldorp selfie)
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Tuesday, December 7, 2021
Three or four of them
Whatever you do, make it fun, interesting, comforting, memorable, unusual, familiar, nourishing, productive, or restful. If it can be three or four of those things at the same time, good job!
Precisely How to Unschool
photo by Rippy Dusseldorp (or maybe a Graham-Dusseldorp selfie)
photo by Rippy Dusseldorp (or maybe a Graham-Dusseldorp selfie)
Friday, May 26, 2017
A challenge
| "Unschooling becomes the ultimate challenge against modern selfishness." —Cathy |
(From a longer commentary on Precisely How to Unschool)
photo by Janine Davies
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Thursday, January 5, 2017
Some of the best of everything
Whatever you do, make it fun, interesting, comforting, memorable, unusual, familiar, nourishing, productive, or restful. If it can be three or four of those things at the same time, good job!
Precisely How to Unschool
photo by Erika Andromeda
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photo by Erika Andromeda
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Wednesday, December 14, 2016
Investing your time
The question was: "When do you find time for yourself as an individual?"
My response, once:
When children are very young, their lives ARE the mother's life. The more time the mother spends with the child when he's young, the easier it will be for him to separate freely on his own. It goes against some of the assumptions of traditional parenting (although it might not in India, and my comments might be too western here), to suggest that fulfilling all of a child's needs will make him more INdependent, but when a child is needy and feels ignored, he will be more demanding, not less.
As my children got a little older, I found other families to trade time with. Their kids would play at my house while the mom shopped or something, and she would reciprocate. If a mother is encouraged to look for more and more time without her children, though, it can make her feel unhappy thinking she's doing something wrong and should "find herself." Rather than encourage mothers to feel they have lost their individuality, I've found that helping them become the sort of parents they're proud to be can make them feel much better than outside interests might have. As children get older, mothers have more time, until someday the children are grown. People say it and hear it all the time, I know, but when they're little it seems it will never happen, and when they're older, it seems it took no time at all.
The more people one's children know and trust, the easier it will be for the parents to find some separate time, but I don't think time apart should be a high priority.
The graph was created for this article:
SandraDodd.com/howto/precisely
My response, once:
When children are very young, their lives ARE the mother's life. The more time the mother spends with the child when he's young, the easier it will be for him to separate freely on his own. It goes against some of the assumptions of traditional parenting (although it might not in India, and my comments might be too western here), to suggest that fulfilling all of a child's needs will make him more INdependent, but when a child is needy and feels ignored, he will be more demanding, not less.
The more people one's children know and trust, the easier it will be for the parents to find some separate time, but I don't think time apart should be a high priority.
SandraDodd.com/howto/precisely
Friday, January 16, 2015
Everything and more
 | If you want to measure, measure generously. If you want to give, give generously. If you want to unschool, or be a mindful parent, give, give, give. You'll find after a few years that you still have everything you thought you had given away, and more. |
photo by Sandra Dodd
Friday, August 9, 2013
Give generously
| If you want to measure, measure generously. If you want to give, give generously. If you want to unschool, or be a mindful parent, give, give, give. You'll find after a few years that you still have everything you thought you had given away, and more. |  |
photo by Sandra Dodd
Sunday, August 4, 2013
Do more.
Karen James remembered me writing that, and a few years later she repeated it to another mom, with a nice addition:
"Do more. Have fun. In my experience, it's truly contagious!"
SandraDodd.com/howto/precisely
photo by Sandra Dodd
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Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Free tools
You need to do MANY things, as an unschooling parent. Free tools are being added to these collections just about every day:
Joyfully Rejoycing (Joyce's site)
SandraDodd.com/
LivingJoyfully.ca (Pam Laricchia's site)
Read a little, try a little, wait a while, watch.
Don't overcomplicate, don't oversimplify.
Paraphrased from a post on Always Learning; this site will work:
SandraDodd.com/howto/precisely
photo by Sandra Dodd
2020 note:
In cleaning up old posts with more solid images and links, I replaced Always Learning, in the list above, with Pam Laricchia's site. Always Learning still exists, and at a better hosting site, but people aren't using e-mail as much as they once did. The Always Learning archives are open here if you want to read, and if you want to join and try to stir the discussion up, I would not mind!
Joyfully Rejoycing (Joyce's site)
SandraDodd.com/
LivingJoyfully.ca (Pam Laricchia's site)
Read a little, try a little, wait a while, watch.
Don't overcomplicate, don't oversimplify.
SandraDodd.com/howto/precisely
photo by Sandra Dodd
2020 note:
In cleaning up old posts with more solid images and links, I replaced Always Learning, in the list above, with Pam Laricchia's site. Always Learning still exists, and at a better hosting site, but people aren't using e-mail as much as they once did. The Always Learning archives are open here if you want to read, and if you want to join and try to stir the discussion up, I would not mind!
Saturday, July 9, 2011
Peaceful Playing
Whatever you do, make it fun, interesting, comforting, memorable, unusual, familiar, nourishing, productive, or restful. If it can be three or four of those things at the same time, good job!
Precisely How to Unschool
photo by Sandra Dodd
photo by Sandra Dodd
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Give, give, give
If you want to measure, measure generously. If you want to give, give generously. If you want to unschool, or be a mindful parent, give, give, give. You'll find after a few years that you still have everything you thought you had given away, and more.
Finding Yourself
The quote above is from "Precisely How to Unschool": SandraDodd.com/howto/precisely
photo by Holly Dodd
Finding Yourself
The quote above is from "Precisely How to Unschool": SandraDodd.com/howto/precisely
photo by Holly Dodd
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Finding yourself
I was asked recently, "When do you find time for yourself as an individual?"
When children are very young, their lives ARE the mother's life. The more time the mother spends with the child when he's young, the easier it will be for him to separate freely on his own. It goes against some of the assumptions of traditional parenting (although it might not in India, and my comments might be too western here), to suggest that fulfilling all of a child's needs will make him more INdependent, but when a child is needy and feels ignored, he will be more demanding, not less.
As my children got a little older, I found other families to trade time with. Their kids would play at my house while the mom shopped or something, and she would reciprocate. If a mother is encouraged to look for more and more time without her children, though, it can make her feel unhappy thinking she's doing something wrong and should "find herself." Rather than encourage mothers to feel they have lost their individuality, I've found that helping them become the sort of parents they're proud to be can make them feel much better than outside interests might have. As children get older, mothers have more time, until someday the children are grown. People say it and hear it all the time, I know, but when they're little it seems it will never happen, and when they're older, it seems it took no time at all.
The more people one's children know and trust, the easier it will be for the parents to find some separate time, but I don't think time apart should be a high priority.
The graph was created for this article:
SandraDodd.com/howto/precisely
When children are very young, their lives ARE the mother's life. The more time the mother spends with the child when he's young, the easier it will be for him to separate freely on his own. It goes against some of the assumptions of traditional parenting (although it might not in India, and my comments might be too western here), to suggest that fulfilling all of a child's needs will make him more INdependent, but when a child is needy and feels ignored, he will be more demanding, not less.
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As my children got a little older, I found other families to trade time with. Their kids would play at my house while the mom shopped or something, and she would reciprocate. If a mother is encouraged to look for more and more time without her children, though, it can make her feel unhappy thinking she's doing something wrong and should "find herself." Rather than encourage mothers to feel they have lost their individuality, I've found that helping them become the sort of parents they're proud to be can make them feel much better than outside interests might have. As children get older, mothers have more time, until someday the children are grown. People say it and hear it all the time, I know, but when they're little it seems it will never happen, and when they're older, it seems it took no time at all.
The more people one's children know and trust, the easier it will be for the parents to find some separate time, but I don't think time apart should be a high priority.
SandraDodd.com/howto/precisely
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