photo by Holly Dodd
Tuesday, July 27, 2021
Growing things
photo by Holly Dodd
Monday, June 21, 2021
Keep an open mind
page 152 (or 140) of The Big Book of Unschooling, noting, in part,
Dr. Robert Sapolsky's crediting of Gilligan's Island, and Dr. Mae Jemison's of Star Trek
for their abiding interest in scientific research.
This photo of Holly Dodd and a braiding pattern on a pony was taken to illustrate a quote from Professor Christine Alvarado about... well just go and read it, please.
Sunday, May 23, 2021
Don't fear sweetness
There are men here, too.What I think is that every bit of energy and thought spent on anything other than your own child(ren) takes away from your time with them. What I know for absolute certain is that a calm, accepting mother is better for life and learning than a fearful, controlling mother ready to yank things away and yell and give up friendships over sweets or snacks.
photo by Tara Joe Farrell
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Sunday, April 25, 2021
Headgear
"Headgear" in very many forms, and unschoolers.
photo credit lost in history; mask by Marty Dodd
(photo is a link)
Wednesday, April 7, 2021
Better living through priorities
It doesn’t seem good for learning, to stop them from doing what seems interesting to them in the moment.
If you set your priority on learning and peace, it makes other questions easier.
photo by Kinsey Norris
Monday, March 29, 2021
Carefully and confidently
Gradual is better. Pass on to anyone who listens to any of you about unschooling to change gradually and not to jump far.
photo by Sandra Dodd
Thursday, February 18, 2021
Better biochemicals
I noted:
Citric acid IS a chemical. Looking for harm is, in itself, harmful. Fear and negativity stir up chemicals your own body makes, that aren't good for you. Induce the better biochemicals by being sweet, hopeful and calm.
or a page on the irrational fear of chemicals: SandraDodd.com/chemicals
photo of a navel orange slice hanging by thread, by Sandra Dodd
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Friday, February 12, 2021
This, too...
photo by Cass Kotrba
Monday, February 1, 2021
Learning, not being taught
The last holdout for some people is "he taught himself..." but maybe that should be the FIRST to go. Teaching comes from someone WITH skills or knowledge passing them on to those without them. If I taught myself to play guitar, I would have had to have known how first.
The information was being sucked in by me, not pushed in by me or anyone else. I didn't PUT the information inside me, I drew it in.
photo by Sandra Dodd, of bricks with Florida on the other side
Thursday, January 28, 2021
Effects and perspective
I'm easier to avoid than the sun is, for most people, except for my children. Your children are in your sphere, in your world, a part of your life.
What you do shines on, and sometimes through, your children. You affect them, and others can see the effect.
photos by Sandra Dodd
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Monday, January 25, 2021
Being better people
photo by Lydia Koltai
Wednesday, October 7, 2020
First, become confident
Confidence in unschooling can't come from other people's accounts. It can only come from seeing one's own children relaxing into learning effortlessly through play, conversations, observations, a rich life.
"Facing fears" sounds scary, intimidating and negative. Stepping toward learning is much more positive. Being with children is easy; they're already right there. Move toward them, instead of milling around with fears and vulnerability.
photo by Tara Joe Farrell
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Monday, September 21, 2020
Organizational skills
People survive without being as organized as Tara Joe's kitchen, but it's good to appreciate the artistry of organizational ability.
If you see someone's desk, or sock drawer, or tools, or fruit bowl nicely arranged, maybe mention that you noticed.
photo by Tara Joe Farrell
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Friday, July 17, 2020
Playing—around, with, seriously
There's a difference between playing a game and playing with a game. Yet another thing is to play with game pieces or parts. Find value in all of those things.
Sometimes adults want a child to "do it right," but if the goal is learning, and thinking, the child is probably better at it than the parent!
photo by Linda Malchor
Thursday, May 28, 2020
Things
Some people think "I have too many things." Some want things they don't have. Few think "I have the perfect number of things."
I miss things I used to have, sometimes. Attachments are not ideal, but things can be art, comfort, tools, toys, and portals to history, stories, science, exploration and possibilities.
Be at peace with things, when you can be.
SandraDodd.com/abundance
photo by Karen Lundy
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Monday, May 11, 2020
Natural patterns
There are patterns in nature. Things are naturally organized.
In humans, it's hard to tell "natural" from culture, language, tradition, institutions. Still, people grow naturally, and have instincts, and think and feel from inside. We learn things physically, and mentally.
Humans learn.
Children learn.
photo by Cara Jones
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Thursday, April 16, 2020
How you view life
"Unschooling is a way of viewing life as filled with choices, not 'have to's'."
Find your options
photo by Rosie Dawn Todd
Tuesday, March 31, 2020
Be curious about life
Get interested in things yourself. Not interested in your child getting educated, but in learning for yourself. Pursue an interest you've always wanted to but never had time for. Be curious about life around you. Look things up to satisfy your own curiosity. Or just ponder the wonder of it all. Ask questions you don't know the answers to. "Why are there beautiful colors beneath the green in leaves?" "Why did they build the bridge here rather than over there?" "Why is there suddenly more traffic on my road than there used to be?"
Let your child know that all the questions haven't been answered yet and it's not her job to just keep absorbing answers until she's got them all.
photo by Pushpa Ramachandran
Thursday, January 23, 2020
Choose to choose.
Making a choice is a matter of choice and just doing it.I don't think it requires willpower to realize that a person can make a choice.
Think of two choices. Choose the best one.
Next time think of two choices (maybe the choice from the time before and a better one). Choose the best one.
If you do that several times a day, soon you'll be doing it countless times a day.
Make choices. Make choices that move you toward being more at peace with your child.
photo by Jill Parmer
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Monday, January 6, 2020
Playing with connections
These two images came up one after the other. They were posted seven years apart, but they're similar, and the posts they link to were called "Playing around" and "Play around." They're links here, and the quote follows.
Someone wrote in 2011:
I do worry about my boys playing computer all day.I responded:
I have three kids who have played hundreds of games among and between them--Holly learned two new card games just this month that nobody else in the family knows, even her dad who has been a big games guy all his life. There is no game called "computer." I think you mean playing ON the computer. HUGE difference.
We have dozens of nice board games here, and table games (games involving cards or other pieces, to be laid out on a table as play proceeds), but those aren't referred to as kids playing board, or kids playing table.
The computer is not itself the game. There are games on the computer. There is information on the computer. It's not really a net. It's not really a web. It's millions of ideas, words, jokes, pictures, games, a ton of music and videos and.... But you know that, right?
Clarity can begin with being careful with the words you use. Thinking about what you write will help you think about what you think!
photos by Sandra Dodd and Karen James