Wednesday, April 2, 2025

As kids deschool...

Kids who haven't been to school are different, but here is
Joyce Fetteroll's advice for helping kids deschool when needed:


The best thing you can do while they're deschooling is let them play. And help them play. Make play dates. Make sure they have things they enjoy playing with. *Be* with them. Find out why they enjoy something so much. When they feel free—rule of thumb is one month for each year they've been in school, starting from the time when you last pressured them to learn something—be more active about running things through their lives: movies, TV shows, books, places to go: ethnic restaurants, museums, monster truck pulls, walks in the woods, funky stores ....

Look for the delight in life and it will infect your kids. 😊 As long as it's *honest* interest and delight! If it's fake interest to get them to pay attention to something you think would be good for them, they're going to notice and avoid it. It's the tactic they've been awash in since kindergarten: "Learning is Fun!"
—Joyce Fetteroll

SandraDodd.com/joyce/deschooling
photo by Cátia Maciel

Tuesday, April 1, 2025

Live, see and think


Unschooling isn't another version of a curriculum, that will take four hours a day. Unschooling is a different way to live and to see and to think.

SandraDodd.com/seeingitcomments
photo by Julie T

Monday, March 31, 2025

Easier lives for children

I would like to discuss unschooling in ways that it can apply to anyone and everyone.

I'm concerned only with what makes children's lives easier, not what makes their mothers feel more important or martyrly or special.
SandraDodd.com/martyr


Nothing has ever made me feel better about me than the feeling that I was being a good mom.
SandraDodd.com/peace/mama

photo by Roya Dedeaux

Sunday, March 30, 2025

Yourself and the world

People don't become really good at unschooling without changing the way they see themselves and the world.



To hear it: SandraDodd.com/radio

To read it: Living Unschooling

If you have the book Natural Born Learners, turn to page 199 for a longer version.

photo by Erika Ellis

Saturday, March 29, 2025

Emulation

The people I respect most have become little voices in my head, and I "consult" them when I'm making decisions in their specialty areas. I have friends who are more patient than I am, more generous with time, and I think of them clearly and try to emulate them when I am making choices in those areas. Some cook better and are more organized, and I think back to things they have said, or to things I have seen them do, or I try to induce in myself the presence and mood they have when they're cooking or straightening. I don't want to be them, but I want to be more like them in the ways they have that earned my respect.
Future Grandparents
and/or
SandraDodd.com/voices
photo by Cathy Koetsier

Friday, March 28, 2025

Fitting dinner into the day

It's not uncommon (historically) for children to eat first, and separately, and food kids like, and then for the adults and teens and guests to eat a little later, at leisure, and not have to worry about whether their food is something the kids would like.

I have more energy in the morning but I don't always want to use it thinking about dinner. When I do, I do better. 🙂 If I start bread and put something out to thaw, or better yet mix up a casserole or put something in the crock pot—at least a sauce or something easy like ground beef or chicken in barbecue sauce—then dinner is easy and if plans change, the thing that was started earlier can go in the fridge.
. . . .

We've never made our kids wait for dinner. If they're hungry, they can snack.
—Sandra, when kids were still home

SandraDodd.com/eating/dinner
photo by Sandra Dodd

Thursday, March 27, 2025

Not the same choices

Happy, supported, trusted kids don't make the same choices as unhappy, controlled kids.
—Joyce Fetteroll
small cheese balls shaped like pumpkins, in a store display
SandraDodd.com/eating/sugar
photo by Sandra Dodd