|"A lot of learning about unschooling is unlearning what we're sure we know about learning." |
photo by Sandra Dodd
outside a kitchen shop in Chichester
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|Our lives are peaceful, our pressures are self-inflicted and mostly optional, we’re free to visit historical sites when there are no crowds, to leave town during the week, to sleep late or have guests whenever it’s convenient for us, without regard to school’s schedule.|
|I didn’t expect them to learn so much without me.|
Anyone who is involved in natural learning for any length of time can find it difficult to summarize what children have learned academically, because each child’s knowledge comes from such varied sources and is fit together uniquely.
At first, though, I thought I wouldn’t miss a single thing. Then I totally missed them learning Roman numerals, which they learned from the names of a series of MegaMan video games.
I was jealous of that “MegaMan” guy, at first. I felt cheated out of the fun of seeing their eyes light up. But in thinking about that feeling, I realized that if life is a busy, happy swirl, they will learn. Learning is guaranteed. The range and content will vary, but the learning will happen.
|Lean, one choice at a time, one conscious thought at a time, until your choices and thoughts are solidly in the range where you want to be, and you no longer lean that other way so much. |
Your new range of balance will involve better choices and options than your first attempts did.
|Supporting someone or something requires strength and confidence. |
Support is holding something up.
Support is upholding something.
Support your child. Lift him up above you.
"Expect imagination and interest and excitement and passion."
| "If you wait to do unschooling *after* you understand it, it's unlikely you'll ever understand it. Learning itself works through experience. Unschooling is the same way. It's largely grasped by experiencing it."|
|"I don't need to stuff him full of who I need him to be, because he's already full of who he is."|
March 29, 2014
Gold Coast symposium
|Exploring the world (including food) needs to be done in a supported and supportive way, in an open and non-fearful way, in a sensible and sensitive way.|
|Something old, something new,|
something borrowed, something blue."
—traditional English saying about what brides should wear
"And all of this is true because it rhymes."
—Vitruvius, in The Lego Movie
|"If you want to establish good habits, be gentle with your kids' feelings. Make their lives warmer and softer and easier so the habits they develop are those of warmth and joy, comfort and care."|
April 13, 2014
|If every day you help a child gently, generously, directly, personally, that's hundreds of times a year.|
By the time that child is fifteen, then you will have helped him, or her, thousands of times.