Friday, February 14, 2014

Protection can backfire

Working on a page of links to old chats, I found something Joyce Fetteroll wrote in September 2010:

What if you live your life fearing the worst and guarding against it? Your child will grow up immersed in the idea the world is scary and stronger than he is and he needs armor (or mom) to protect him. (As much as you might try, you won't be able to hide your fears from him.) Is that what you want? photo DSC00056.jpg

Or he'll think you're full of baloney. He'll see people doing the things you fear—like drinking soda—and they're healthy and
strong. He'll then realize you don't know what you're talking about and tune you out. That won't be so good when your fears are justified (like about unprotected sex and drinking and driving.)

Those are worst case scenarios but it's likely he'll have a bit of those if you live your life protecting him from the world.
—Joyce Fetteroll

Related ideas: SandraDodd.com/trust
photo by Sandra Dodd

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