Sunday, December 21, 2014

Don't count, don't measure

 photo LisaJonickFireCat.jpgDon't divide anything "fifty/fifty." Forget that concept. Give what you have. Do all you can do. Give/do 80% when you can, but only measure it vaguely, at a squint, and then forget about it. If you aim for half, there will be resentments. If you aim for 100%, small failures will seem larger than they need to be, so don't do that. You can succeed at "lots" without measuring.

If each of you gives as much as you can, your shared needs will be fulfilled more quickly, more easily, and more often.

That was advice sent to our friend Sadie, for her bridal shower.
It works for roommates and other dyads, too.
I quoted it here:
photo by Lisa Jonick

Friday, December 19, 2014

Five ways to help

I have five ways you could help me, or someone else, and it's a good time of year for it.

Or maybe it's not a good time for it. People are very busy. But there are blessings you could bestow, and that might be worth your time.

A short note, a card, or a donation would make the unschooling world, and the larger world around it, a little bit lighter. Details are here: Thank you for looking, and thinking about it, if you have a moment.

image by Sandra Dodd; it's a link


I can't really speak to any "end results," because they're still growing and experiencing the newness of many firsts in their lives. If there is ever an "end," the results won't matter anymore. But as long as life continues, the results unfold.
photo by Sandra Dodd, of baby Holly
who is now 23, and visiting India

Thursday, December 18, 2014

Transformation through choices

Choices have transformed our lives.
Limitations do not transform lives. They limit lives.
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photo by Sandra Dodd

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Not the same choices

"Happy, supported, trusted kids don't make the same choices as unhappy, controlled kids."
—Joyce Fetteroll
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photo by Sandra Dodd

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Beautiful, vibrant and alive

 photo LisaJonickYodaDarth.jpgIf a child has a joyous excitement for music, or sports, computers, poetry, horses, golf or dance, nurture that without owning it. Smile at it without naming it something bigger than your child. Treat is as a butterfly, beautiful, vibrant and alive. Don’t stab a pin in it, label it and stick it in a display box to show everyone the details, and try to keep it as it is forever because then you take the life of it away. YOU own it, and not the child, then.
photo by Lisa Jonick

Monday, December 15, 2014

Improve life!

 photo DSC04886.jpg"It feels so much better to be doing something active to try to improve life than it did sitting around worrying about it!!"
—Cass Kotrba
photo by Sandra Dodd
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