Jenny Cyphers and Pam Sorooshian
photo by Rippy Dusseldorp
|I ran across this little bit this morning, from Pam Sorooshian: |
Self-recrimination is self-indulgent and not helpful to your children. Be fully present in the here and now. That's the antidote to regret.Something I like about Pam, is that she says so much in so few words! That one packs a punch! Or a soft hand on someone's shoulder, really.
When people talk about doing unschooling right, to me, this gets at the heart of it! Go and BE WITH your kids, don't let days go by in which regret happens, because the opposite of that is where the magic happens!
|People don't become really good at unschooling without changing the way they see themselves and the world.|
I was told by being with them all the time, by saying yes most of the time, by not setting the boundary (in a traditional sense), by parenting without punishment, I would have clingy and spoiled kids. The reality is quite the opposite: they are very independent and well adjusted.
The simple truth: we just spend lots of time together and have lots of shared experience and memory. That makes big differences. It is 365x24x60x60 shared moments (31,536,000 seconds a year).—Jihong Larson
|When someone says "I struggle with..." the answer is "stop struggling." Not to give up on change, but instead of struggling with the old thing, turn all the way away from it, and do the new thing. BE the new thing.|