Preventing regrets

Jenny Cyphers, quoting Pam Sorooshian:

I ran across this little bit this morning, from Pam Sorooshian: Self-recrimination is self-indulgent and not helpful to your children. Be fully present in the here and now. That's the antidote to regret. Something I like about Pam, is that she says so much in so few words! That one packs a punch! Or a soft hand on someone's shoulder, really. When people talk about doing unschooling right, to me, this gets at the heart of it! Go and BE WITH your kids, don't let days go by in which regret happens, because the opposite of that is where the magic happens!

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Jenny Cyphers and Pam Sorooshian
photo by Rippy Dusseldorp

Logic trumps reaction

Reactionary isn't always bad, unless someone moves in and lives there. Do things that make sense.

Chat on Help has the first quote
and SandraDodd.com/readalittle is close to the second one.
photo by Gina Trujilla

Observation and more

"Wondering is what takes people—including children—from observation to something else, to asking questions and looking for answers." —Meredith Novak

SandraDodd.com/meredithnovak
photo by Sandra Dodd

Change the way you see.

Sorry I didn't have a post for March 3. I was confused by being in Australia, and slept half the day.

People don't become really good at unschooling without changing the way they see themselves and the world.

"Living Unschooling" at http://sandradodd.com/interviews/radioFreeschoolTranscript.pdf
photo by Sandra Dodd (a tree in Texas, not Australia)

Confident and independent children

Jihong Larson wrote:

I was told by being with them all the time, by saying yes most of the time, by not setting the boundary (in a traditional sense), by parenting without punishment, I would have clingy and spoiled kids. The reality is quite the opposite: they are very independent and well adjusted.

The simple truth: we just spend lots of time together and have lots of shared experience and memory. That makes big differences. It is 365x24x60x60 shared moments (31,536,000 seconds a year).

—Jihong Larson

SandraDodd.com/why
photo by Sandra Dodd

Learning

How will they learn to learn? By learning.

SandraDodd.com/faq
photo by Sandra Dodd

Stop struggling

When someone says "I struggle with..." the answer is "stop struggling." Not to give up on change, but instead of struggling with the old thing, turn all the way away from it, and do the new thing. BE the new thing.

SandraDodd.com/decisions
photo by Dylan Lewis