Thursday, August 21, 2014

Bigger and wiser

 photo DSC09833.jpgGiving children choices helps create a partnership, it helps them learn, it makes them bigger, wiser, more whole.

Pulling them out or pushing them into things keeps them smaller and more powerless.
photo by Sandra Dodd

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Choices, for partners

 photo DSC02376.jpgWhen you choose to say something or to wait, think of which will be more patient, or less critical. If you decide to say something, think of two things and choose the one that is closer to the person you want to be. If you choose not to say anything, consider your posture and demeanor. Choose to be gentle, and not to express negative emotion.

Sometimes choose quiet space, but not hateful silence.

With practice, it gets easier.
photo by Sandra Dodd

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Be inviting

In response to someone saying "I pulled her out of school…", I wrote:
Being pulled out of something sounds rough, and surprising, and a tad violent.

Being invited to come home is much sweeter, and gives the child an option and some power.
8/18/14 Be inviting photo IMG_1131.jpg

(That will work for any choice you can give a child to come home,
opt out, take a break from some activity.)
photo by Rippy Dusseldorp

Monday, August 18, 2014

One peaceful choice

Lisa Celedon wrote:

I make one peaceful choice, one bonding, relationship-building choice. Just one little choice. photo DSC09522.jpg Then it's easier to make the next one, and the next one, and sometimes there's wobble, but rebuilding peace and self esteem one choice, one moment at a time, is doable! When you do that you can get to really sweet, joyful, soul-warming places.
photo by Sandra Dodd

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Sunday, August 17, 2014

Saturday, August 16, 2014

Approach perfection

Approach perfection, don't aim and fail. Be the best in the moment, but don't expect that to be "The BEST."

("Better" is a preferable goal. The quote above made sense in the chat, though.)
photo by Sandra Dodd, of Holly, in Sausalito

Friday, August 15, 2014

The big upside

8/15/14 The big upside photo IMG_4976.jpg"The big upside of unschooling, in my opinion, was that it also created an unexpected peacefulness, fulfillment, and happiness for all of us."
—Jenny Cyphers
photo by Karen James
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