A gentler touch with ourselves, and others, is the best way for genuine improvement.
You can’t yell at a cat and make it come to you. Same with real change.
—Angela, in response to the post
"Be sweet and soft"
photo by Debra Heller Bures
"Production" is for factories. Your children are learning and growing. There is nothing they need to "produce."
Learning requires a sense of safety.
Fear blocks learning. Shame and embarrassment, stress and anxiety—these block learning.
So don't pressure, coerce or confuse your children.
Smile and laugh and provide.
Keep them safe and fed and warm and they will grow all sorts of ways.
It's kind of schoolish, the idea that the more one reads the more one knows. Unschooling is one of those things that isn't accomplished by recitation or test-taking, but only by changing thoughts and actions, beliefs and relationships. It's not easy, it's not quick, and it's not for everyone.